No, This is not "How to Make More Cash FAST"
You see, increasing your income in a matter of days with minimal work seems like a solid idea, but it really never works.
Yet, so many people actually fall for those scams because they don't want to put in that extra work. This blog is for those of you who are really trying to improve their lives and are in this game for the long run.
When you stay patient you see results, it is a pretty simple concept.
This is not going to be some master plan for putting more money in your bank account, rather it is going to be helping you develop the foundation for yourself to create more opportunities and income in your life.
When you get your mind right, you start to see results and that is no different in the finance area of our lives.
D*mnnnnn, almost forgot, if you are new to the blog, thanks for stopping by! With MMNTM (mo-men-tum) my goal is to help you guys level up your mind and mindset with effective workouts. Much like you would train your body, this is the gym for your mindset, everything from your happiness and mental clarity to focus and productivity. These are the things that have helped me the most and I love sharing them with you daily on yourmmntm.com/blog so be sure to pop out daily!
Now let's get back to what you started reading for.
A Quick Overview
One Factor That Nobody Thinks About in Terms of Income
And matters way more than we think it does...
"I need a new strategy."
"I need to start a different business."
"I just feel stuck with the amount of money I am making."
"Why can't I get a raise like my friends are?"
When it comes to money, everyone thinks that in order to make more of it they need to change their strategy constantly until they find one that works.
And while that might be right occasionally, have you ever thought that maybe it is you that needs to change and not the strategy you are employing?
A lot of us, myself included, carry beliefs about money from our past that our parents have passed down to us and whether we are conscious of it or not, they are putting a ceiling on the amount of money we are earning.
Maybe we subconsciously get content after making more than our parents, when that happens, or even before then maybe we are telling ourselves that "success" and "making that much money" is something other people do.
It comes down to our day to day actions and voices both in our heads and with other people.
When your friends are around are you constantly complaining about not having enough money to pay bills? Or are you working on ways to make more opportunities and find new sources of income in your life?
The energy you put out in those situations is much different and if you keep complaining about money like that you are going to slowly but surely start telling yourself subconsciously that it is always going to be like that.
Also, how are you acting around money now if you aren't where you want to be? Are you in full control of it, know where every cent you earn is going and have investment accounts? Or do you just not like to think about money and hope that your card doesn't get declined when you go to Chipotle?
If taking control of the money you have right now is an issue, I would definitely recommend looking into Ramit Sethi and his book, I Will Teach You To Be Rich.
What you are speaking into existance around money matters more than you think on a subconscious level, it is time to get your mindset around money right.
Your Mind as the Foundation of Everything, Including Income
Yes, you read that right.
No matter what you do in life, your mindset and thoughts are always going to be at the foundation of that activity.
Just think about it, if you are working at a job you are going to put in as much work as you believe that is needed to get the desired result. Wether your desired result is to just get to the next paycheck or to get to executive level, your mindset is at the foundation of that decision to work based upon what you value.
Same in school, if you value an education and have positive thoughts about what it can do for your life, you are going to put in the work, study, get good grades and actually learn something that will excel your career.
On the opposite of that, if you are just "trying to get through" and always are talking negative about school, then you are just going to pass through college and not learn anything that will help you excel at your job.
Your mindset around money and income is no different.
If you are constantly complaining and thinking of problems, you are never going to have time to think thoughts and take action that solve those problems effectively.
Or if you are talking negative about "rich people" how do you expect to attract wealth into your life when all your subconscious mind is hearing is negative thoughts around money?
This is just going to steer you away from money in the future if anything.
When you develop a positive mindset around money, you will start to learn more about it, take more control, create more and work harder so that you can actually start attracting this into your life.
What Can Happen if You Don't Develop Your Mindset Around Money
Yikes, really don't let this happen our you'll leave so many opportunities on the table.
So, let's say you like this idea but never really change you habits and thoughts around money after reading this article, what will happen?
Honestly nothing "bad" is going to happen to you, it is more about what isn't going to happen to you.
You are going to not take the control and develop the mindsets around money that will present you with more opportunities too attract money into your life.
Also, subconsciously you might not work as hard as you need to in order to attract these opportunities because you just don't really believe you are one of "those people that makes a lot of money."
So many people get stuck in this thinking that success and money is for other people because they are just a normal person, nothing is special about them.
Guess what, everyone is a normal person it's not like anyone is much different than us they just had clear priorities and mindsets that got them to where they are.
This is not an easy area off your thinking to change, as I have been slowly changing my own thinking the past year or two, but it is definitely one that will pay off if you are in the long game around money.
How Improving Your Mindset Will Benefit You In The Long Run
A picture of how your income and life will look.
Yes, in the LONG RUN, not next week or even next month.
This is not some special formula of thinking that is going to make your boss give you a raise tomorrow or help you sell a million dollars in your business next week.
Rather, this is a skill to develop in order to out the odds of success in your favor because you still have to go out and do the work.
But, when you combine the work with this new thinking about money and your mindset around it and give yourself time, that is when we will really start to see results.
Just imagine, instead of complaining about money to everyone, you talked about ideas and maybe someone liked your idea and partnered with you on it.
Or, you took control of your finances and started investing even though you don't make a ton of money yet, you are going to put the energy out to the world that you are ready for more money and will be able to handle it when it comes.
Taking control like this will make you more comfortable around money and this is a huge benefit, especially for those in business, because you won't be afraid to ask for money based around the value you are offering.
We have to make money less of a taboo topic to talk about in life if we want to attract more.
Time to Actually Get Started
Time for a solid workout for your mind.
If you read the blog yesterday, this is the "dirt" of the post, where we actually help you take action! If you have no idea what I'm talking about, check out the blog post here >>
Almost every day I will sum up the blog in some mental "workouts, which are essentially going to help you train your mind, much like you would train your body at the gym.
Exercise #1: Stop Complaining
Reps: All day
Duration: Start with a week, go from there
Notes: Focus on this when the topic of money comes up in your day to day life as well as in your mind. If you really want to challenge yourself, don't complain for a week in any area of your life that is much harder than you think.
Exercise #2: Positive Affirmations
Reps: 1x per day in the Morning
Duration: 5 minutes
Notes: Focus these around money and what money can do for your life such as "being a tool for your growth and opportunities"
Exercise #3: Take Control
Duration: 5 minutes at end of day
Notes: Start taking control of your money, start by literally just knowing how much money you have in each account every day, down to the cent. This will make you more comfortable around money and have it be less of a taboo topic.
Exercise #4: Positive Talk
Reps: Say three positive things
Duration: All day
Notes: Whenever you copme across someone better off than you at this point in your life, whether it be on social media or driving by them on the highway, instead of thinking "I wish" or "Damn they are lucky," start to think positive thoughts like "wow they must have worked really hard that is so cool."
And just like that another day in the gym at yourmmntm.com/blog has come to an end. If you really enjoyed the article all I ask is that you bring one friend back tomorrow for the blog, let them know anbout MMNTM! Thanks again for stopping out and I look forward to seeing you all again tomorrow.
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How much time are you really investing in yourself outside of school?
When we picture our 20's we think about crazy college parties, a ton of friends, relationships and "finally getting older."
Heck, we might even think about businesses we want to start, how we want our careers to look and where we want to travel to, I know I definitely have been using my 20's to knock some things off the ole bucket list.
But then there is something that nobody really talks about, the amount of alone time and down time that we have in our 20's compared to previous years of our lives.
Unlike the previous years of school and life, when we get into college and our 20's the days have less structure and we have more responsibility to structure our days effectively in order to reach our goals in life, relationships, school and work.
This is not easy though because when our days have been structured for us for so long, a lot of people don't really know how to effectively go about their days on their own.
So, we do what every other normal kid would do, especially in college, we hang out with friends every opportunity we get that we are not in class.
We do this first off, because it is enjoyable but also because a lot of us are not really comfortable being alone or we feel like we are missing out on something when we are not with people constantly.
Not being comfortable to spend time with ourselves on a day to day basis can be detrimental to our growth as a person and in our career because as we get older the time we have with ourselves is going to be the most important time in our day.
It's about time we figured out how to master and more importantly be comfortable with time alone.
Oh sh*t almost forgot, thanks for stopping by MMNTM (mo-men-tum) where my goal is to help you guys level up your mind and mindset with effective workouts. Much like you would train your body, this is the gym for your mindset, everything from your happiness and mental clarity to focus and productivity. These are the things that have helped me the most and I love sharing them with you daily on yourmmntm.com/blog so be sure to pop out daily!
And now back to what you came here for.
What to Look Forward to In This Post
What Everyone Thinks Their 20's is About
It's a common belief so I don't blame you if you relate to this.
For most people college can be summed up in a few statements.
They go out to party multiple times per week, are always with their friends whether it be eating food, at the gym or even studying and they really don't make time for themselves.
Even though the time we have alone, in college especially, is plentiful, a lot of people waste it on Netflix and sleeping because they aren't comfortable with the thought of doing things alone.
Want to know what this does though?
It leaves our minds to rely solely on other people for our happiness and we are never happy with just our own company.
Because we are never doing the things that help us find discipline and happiness on our own, rather we are only relying on when we are with others to be happy and looking forward to those times during the day rather than loving the moment you are in, experiencing life for yourself.
What if those friends leave then or they get busy in relationships or college ends and you aren't with them nearly as much? You are going to struggle to find happiness because you never took the time to start loving the moment you are in and being happy with your own company.
The Other Side of Your 20's
What the real focus should be with this great amount of extra time.
How about we flip all of that extra time around in our 20's and make something out of it, sounds like a solid idea, right?
This is the best time to learn the skill of enjoying and getting the most out of your time alone because we have the least amount off responsibilities and the most amount of time.
As a whole, we are not yet juggling work, family, investments, relationships and kids yet and we essentially have no major responsibilities compared to what we will have as we get older. So, what better time to work on this skill than when we have the most time to do so?
That way when you do start having to juggle these things and have less time on your own, you will be able to maximize the time that you do have on your own in order to continue your personal growth throughout the duration of your life.
Welcome to the journey to the "other side of your 20's."
This is where we start to focus more on our own lives, advancing what we are interested in and getting more in touch with who we really are so that we can start working on learning new skills or developing new traits.
We need to be constantly developing and learning on our lives in order to not plateau in whatever we are doing, so what better time to do that than right now.
The problem with improving ourselves as a person is that we really never have taken inventory of what we do and think about on a consistent basis to have anywhere to even start and that is about to change once you start the training that I have below, so don't worry.
The other huge part about maximizing our time alone is that we dan actually find ways to let go of all that stress in our lives and enjoy the present moment more and more, just start enjoying life because it is actually f**king amazing.
When we are constantly with other people, we never have the time to "off load" and just enjoy the moment we are in. I used to constantly be stressed about the future and regret the past, it's time to look past that and start loving the moment you are in so you can maximize your time here.
All of this starts with crafting out more time for yourself.
The Hard Part About Spending More Time With Yourself
And why this is an essential skill...
Honestly, this is kind of hard as f**k.
Because at this age we are constantly getting asked to do things, go get food with people, hang out with people and just be with your friends as much as you can.
And it is hard to say "no" usually because you don't want anyone to get mad or stop being friends with you.
You have to start saying "no" to somethings over the course of each week so that you can find time to work on yourself. Don't totally cut out your relationships because you will not be happy when you do that either, but rather try to spend at least a handful of days during the week with yourself and enjoying your own company and thoughts.
Now to the real hard thing about enjoying your own company, yes harder than saying "no" to your friends...
Saying no to technology during the time you are spending working on yourself.
It might sound easy but when you are reading or even taking a walk and start wondering what other people are up to, it will be very tempting to whip out that phone and check.
This is exactly what you don't want to do though because it will one, build mental discipline ( a new skill for you) and also, a key part to enjoying time to yourself is to live in the moment and enjoy your own thoughts which is very hard when all you do when you are alone is scroll through Instagram.
It is time to take control of your life again and actually start living.
How Spending More Time With Yourself Will Impact Other Areas of Your Life
Your inner talk and relationship with yourself is the foundation to all areas of life.
Enjoying the time you have on your own and maximizing it in order to grow as a person will help almost every other area of your life as well.
The habits you will create through spending more time with yourself can first off, help you get your fitness in check as a great way top enjoy time alone is to walk and go to the gym, two essential parts to your daily routine that you might not have yet.
Also, when you grow as a person you can bring this "new you" into your future or current relationships wiht your significant other. You will find that you are more confident, can love deeper and when you aren't reliant on that one person for your happiness, as you are happy with the time you have alone now as well, you enjoy all aspects of your life more.
I am not saying that you should not be happy with your significant other, just that they shouldn't be the only source of your happiness because if they are you will likely hold onto relationships that need to be ended in order to save yourself from unhappiness.
Finally, when we are happier and growing as a person our work is going to reflect that. We are going to be making better work, more work that we care about and just have a better mindset around work because we have that solid relationship with ourselves now.
Your Weekly Workout to Help Maximize Your Time With Yourself
You already know I got you with actionable advice at the end. Thanks for making it this far!
For all of you new to the MMNTM blog, this is the part of the blog where I give you workouts for your mind that are usually simple to execute on so that you can put to use what you just learned, only on yourmmntm.com!
Exercise #1: Walk and listen to a podcast you haven't listened to before
Reps: 1x per day
Duration: 1 hour
Why?: What better way to get outside and learn to love your surroundings and learn something new at the same time to push your knowledge.
Exercise #2: Cold Shower
Reps: 1x per day
Duration 3 minutes
Why?: Start being comfortable making yourself uncomfortable, building that confidence.
Exercise #3: Hit the gym
Reps: 1x per day
Duration: 45 minutes
Why?: Other than the obvious benefits related to health, you will start to build more mental toughness as you are forcing yourself to do something hard each day.
Exercise #4: Do Something New
Reps: 1x per day
Duration: 30 minutes per day
Why?: Have to learn to break those patterns you have created in your every day life. Push yourself to learn and do something new and you will build new skills and just a new mindset around growth.
Exercise #5: Meditate
Reps: 2x per day
Duration: 10-20 minutes each rep
Why?: Hands down, this has worked the best for me in order to start living in the moment and stay focused on my own life rather than what other people are doing.
Exercise #6: Learn or take action based around your goals
Example: Anything from just reading about your industry to taking action and starting to solve problems in your industry or even start a blog or social media account around your interests. This is the time to do what you have wanted to do but always just pushed it off.
Reps: 1x per day
And just like that another day in the gym at yourmmntm.com/blog has come to an end. Thanks again for stopping out and I look forward to seeing you all again tomorrow.
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Have a more clear vision, problem solve better, stay more focused and be more productive during the week.
Clearing your mind is crucial to do on Sundays.
It is the beginning of the week and will set your tone for the upcoming week. Too many of us, especially college kids our age, are using Sundays to chill and rest while this is essentially setting the tone for the week.
When you set the tone for the week as restful, you are going to subconsciously carry that tone throughout the rest of the week and next thing you know it's Friday and you really didn't get much done that you needed to and are even more stressed.
How about we learn to set the tone for the week the right way, which is definitely going to take some sacrifices, but don't worry you will still make time for Sunday football I promise.
And as always, I got you guys with the workout for your mind at the end of this blog so that you can start right away!
Oh sh*t almost forgot, thanks for stopping by MMNTM (mo-men-tum) where my goal is to help you guys level up your mind and mindset with effective workouts. Much like you would train your body, this is the gym for your mindset, everything from your happiness and mental clarity to focus and productivity. These are the things that have helped me the most and I love sharing them with you daily on yourmmntm.com/blog so be sure to pop out daily!
And now back to what you came here for.
Here is What to Expect
What Most People Are Doing on Sunday
And Why it is Killing Their Results Each week
The alarm goes off at 9:30 in the morning because the hopeful your last night thought you were going to get a lot done today, but you snooze it until noon because you are pretty hungover from the night before.
Eventually, you get out of bed and make some food, you think about going to the gym and h*ll you might even make your way to the gym before you start your Netflix grind for the day.
Then at some point during the night you finish some homework or work you had to do over the weekend before going to sleep and getting the week started on Monday.
Sound familiar at all?
It was very familiar to me and pretty much summed up my first few years of college weekends, pretty d*mn unproductive.
Why exactly is this killing our results every week though, when we wait until Monday to start the week?
As I mentioned before, Sunday sets the tone for the rest of the week. When you lay around and don't do much other than what you already do out of habit, then that is the tone you set for the week.
Sure, you may get the work you need to done but you really never excel. You stay focused on the things that don't matter that much and that essentially just keep you busy, getting you no closer to your goals even though you are constantly working.
The "lazy Sunday" also leaves your to-do list packed, pushing it off until "some other time."
This takes up unnecessary space in your brain throughout the week and causes even more unnecessary stress, which could all be solved with a simple change in Sunday routine.
Welcome to Mental Clarity Sundays
How You Should Structure Your Sundays Instead
It's time to make "lazy Sundays" your most effective day of the week.
Sundays should be focused on clearing up all the little tasks that you have been pushing off until some later date or even ideas that you wanted to try or pretty much anything that is in the back of your mind that you haven't gotten to that week.
It doesn't take any extra "tools" or resources in order to clear that to do list or get any ideas that you have written down.
Literally, you can just go grab a notepad, or even use the notes app on your phone and start getting everything written down that you have been meaning to get done.
Then, knock these things out every Sunday to go into the week with a clean slate, more space in your mind and less unnecessary stress.
You know the feeling when you have a great idea around your life, business, fitness, or whatever it is, on a walk or in the car and then it stays in the back of your mind and you really never get it done or even started.
Well, finally you have a time to get all these ideas written down, and even started. This allows you to figure out which ideas align with what interests you the most and start to take action on those ideas.
That is what Sundays should be all about.
Why You Need to Be Doing This on Sundays
"Why Am I Going to Give Up A Rest Day Each Week?"
Whether you realize this or not, these little tasks, ideas and thoughts take up brain space and causes stress in your week that just doesn't need top be there.
When you get all of these random tasks done, ideas out of your head and started and then just thoughts written down, it frees up brain space and stress in your mind each week.
Plus, getting all of these small things off the "to-do" list allows you to not have to worry about them during the week so that you can focus on actions more aligned to your goals.
Imagine starting your week with more free time than before, more clarity in your goals and ready to do more things that are actually aligned with where you want your life to head, not just things that keep you busy.
It's time to take control of your life again and not just living in autopilot, going through the days and weeks with a million things that never get done, or ideas that never get started.
Sunday Training Session
Yes, Back at it With The Mindset Workouts
This is as simple as it comes in terms of workouts, just a few steps here!
Step one, get all of those thoughts, ideas and things you have been needing to get done, written down and out of your head.
Clearing your head is always the first step before you can get anything done, because you gotta know exactly what has to get done.
Next, actually get done everything that you have been meaning to get done and figure out which ideas to start.
Perfect, now that our heads are cleared from all this stress we were subconsciously causing ourselves, time to start the second part of Sunday.
Now that you have gotten all of the small things you have been meaning to do done, it is time to figure out what the larger things are, the things that will actually get you closer to your goals, that need to get done during the week.
These were all of the things that always got pushed off until some future date because we were just keeping ourselves busy with small tasks all day every day.
Plan out the rest of your week on Sunday, what you are going to do and when you are going to do it, so that you can wake up ready to go.
This frees up even more mental space because you are sure on what is goin g to get done that day and no longer have to keep a constant "to-do" list going in your brain.
Pro tip: to make Sundays even easier for yourself, you can keep a constant to do list on your phone or notepad so that you don't need to even take the time to write it down on Sundays, you can just get right to work knocking those tasks off.
Finally, always make sure to find some time to meditate after you have done everything you need to on Sunday as when you mind is clear, you are able to stay focused and become more presemnt in your meditations, helping your happiness and mindset in the long run.
Your Week At A Glance After Putting to Use These "Trainings"
It's Like You're a New Person...
Very little time focused on minimally important tasks, all of your time focused on tasks aligned with your goals and purpose.
Less stress and clearer thinking throughout the week, leading to better problem solving and more effective work whether it be at your job or in class.
Clearing your mind has helped me in more ways than I can count and I really think you should give it a shot, at least to clear some stress if nothing else and to get done what you have been pushing off all week.
When you know you can get these things done on Sunday, you don't have to waste the already little amount of extra time you have during the week, doing these tasks just so that you don't forget them.
Boom, nightly training done and I look forward to another solid training for you tomorrow so be sure to stop out to yourmmntm.com/blog.
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It's time to stop going out every night and thinking you "function fine." Change your habits to see what "functioning fine" actually looks like.
It is finally freaking summer break after what felt like the longest semester ever, so pretty much what we say after every semester.
What does every one have planned for the summer? I hope you have some extra time because summer is when you have the time to nail down the habits that will help you not just next year but also the rest of your life.
Oh, and don't worry if you are thinking "but now I'm working full time, I might not have extra time for habits." It only takes an hour or less every day to focus on your habits, if you plan then right and take control of the crucial times of your day like in the morning before you have real responsibilities.
We can all find an extra hour or two each day, just stop scrolling through social media all day. Maybe cut it back to scrolling for one hour instead of three, it won't kill you, or at least it hasn't killed me yet!
So, once you admit to scrolling through social media to way more than you should be, just turn on "screen time" on your iPhone and it will show you your real totals for how long you are on there each day, start trying to add these habits.
The Importance of Habits
They run every aspect of your life whether you realize it or not.
Whether you realize it or not, or if you want to admit it or not, your habits control your life. Yes, that means your bad habits are holding you back in some way or another even if you think you are "functioning just fine."
If you have been living your whole life thinking that when you go to bed super later, wake up early and are able to make it through the day, and still have the energy to go out at night, you are "functioning fine," Then wait until you feel what "functioning fine" actually feels like.
This is going to be a game changer this summer as your habits are going to build momentum in any area of your life that you are looking to change. There is a reason that things such as the "Miracle Morning" or even just so many articles on the importance of a daily routine, they don't just write these because they are fun to write, they actually help.
Yet, so many people think that they are not seeing results because of some other reason, some skill or strategy they are missing.
Well, newsflash here I guess, you are not where you want to be because your habits are holding you back. That is too much for people to come to terms with because they think they are functioning "just fine" yet they really have nothing to compare to so how would they know?
This is how to actually function better than "just fine" and see what it feels like to have powerful habits that actually lead to results.
You just can't get the results you want with your s**t habits, that is not how it works.
Where Many People Go Wrong With Habits
There are reasons why so many people can't break those bad habits.
They want to see the results right away and 99% of the time that is not how it works. Even that 1% of the time where you do see some results right away, you are likely just seeing very small results compared to what you will see in the long run.
If you think you want to add a new habits and then just do it for a month and then quit, like every one does when they set a New Year's resolution, when they don't see the results they just quit because they are doing this extra work for "no reason."
You have to be patient, not just with habits but with anything in life, if you are expecting rewards right away without some struggle, then you are going to be disappointed with every area of your life for your whole life.
This leads to the next thing, they are not comfortable being uncomfortable. So many people just do what is easy and what is comfortable and never really push their comfort zone because it is hard and it sucks. That is also why so any people are unhappy, a direct correlation (according to me and not scientifically proven).
All the best rewards in any area of your life come after the struggle and sucking at something, yet so many people don't do what they suck at or what is hard for long enough and that is why they never see results in any area of life.
They have average jobs, average lives, average relationships, and average vacations, never really experiencing what there is out there because they were too focused on being comfortable and doing what was easy.
Why College is the Best Time To Build Habits
The longer you wait the more ingrained your bad habits become and the less likely you are to keep the new ones you try to form.
What point in your life can you name where you have the amount of free time that you do in college, and the intellect to be able to craft these skills, there really is not a better one than college.
Sure, you could when you are older but by that point your habits are so set in stone that it is going to be damn near impossible to change them.
Or you could argue you have more time when you are a child, which is true, but you really don't have the knowledge or intellect to build these powerful habits into your life.
So, that leaves us here with college, where you go to class for a few hours per day, go to the gym, eat and pretty much have the rest of the day to do whatever you want because honestly homework doesn't take that long if you aren't constantly getting distracted.
Start cutting down on the amount of times you go out drinking each week and start spending more time focused on yourself and your growth in these important years of your life.
If we are being honest, drinking every single night of the week might be fun the first few months but it gets very boring and repetitive fast, that is not what we are about at MMNTM, we are trying to experience as much of this life as possible.
On top of that, you don't really have a family, or anyone depending on you, other than maybe a significant other, which leaves ample time and money to invest in yourself once you start cutting down on the amount you spend at the bars.
The Habits You Should Focus on Building
These are the ones for your summer.
Alright now onto all the good stuff, what habits you should actually be building.
Why These Habits Though?
For a multitude of reasons, but here are the main ones...
Why these habits though, they seem pretty easy an simple?
You probably came to this post looking for some crazy or out of this world habit that will totally change your life, well even though these habits sound boring as f**k, they are actually those habits.
It is almost always the most simple things that work the best, yet every one thinks that there has to be some complex habits that will solve all of their problems. That just isn't how it works.
You do the small things day in and day out for months and years and that is where you start to build the momentum you need that leads to great results.
People never try the small things though because it seems "too simple," yet these are what actually work.
These habits will teach you the importance of taking care of your body, doing the things that you suck at for long enough until you are great, embracing the hard and uncomfortable things and so much more.
How to Effectively Build and Keep Habits
It's one thing to try a habit a few times, it's another thing to keep a habit.
Here is how to not give up on the habits like so many people do.
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Are you struggling to find happiness, motivation or even just focus in college? This is for you...
Meditation is not the first thing that comes to your mind when you think of college, and it probably isn't even in the top 100 things that come to your mind when you think of college.
When many people hear the word meditation they instantly think of something along the lines of someone sitting outside on a rock going "Ummmmmmmmmm... Ummmmmm," or they think of a monk that they may have seen in a movie before.
While that might be the case way back when, it is the 21st century now and meditation has been found to have countless benefits for people of all ages. That is why many of the top business people have started to meditate daily, as well as people of all ages.
Soon it is going to be a very common practice, so I really had to try it for myself to see if these benefits were actually legit and if it was something that could help me now and in the future.
I was pleasantly surprised by what I started to notice in my life and think you will be as well...
Why Did I Start Meditating in College?
It is definitely not the normal thing to do, so why did I start?
Alright, so why did I start meditating in the first place and how did I even think about starting?
Well, I was at a low point in college and really did not enjoy the habits I had formed or the routines I was in day to day and I was not being productive at all. On top of that, my girlfriend had just broken up with me and I really had no idea who I was anymore.
Rather than just riding out the college experience like this, I decided to move home and start focusing on my habits and things I actually enjoyed doing more. I started researching for a few days and then ultimately decided on the first few habits I wanted to focus on and since then I have tried and tested countless habits and routines in order to improve everything from my happiness to productivity.
It so happened that after doing more and more research on habits and routines, that I came across how popular meditation really was and the lasting benefits it could have on your life. Sure, I have heard of meditation before but really didn't give it much thought because I thought "I was in college, why do I need to meditate?"
Thank god I did though as it has been one of the habits that has helped me the most as the benefits stretch across all areas of your life from your sleep to your mindset and happiness.
If you are interested in hearing about some of my other habits that I have enjoyed the most, I made a whole post about that right here >>
Why Am I Meditating Twice A Day?
There are different benefits you can get in the morning compared to at night.
Sure, even once a day is a great place to start but twice a day has helped me see the most benefits as a morning meditation and evening meditation have different benefits, both of which I was searching for in my life.
Plus, if you are strapped on time even just a ten minute one in the morning and night will give you some great benefits, you don't have to be sitting for an hour meditating every day you just don't have that kind of time most likely.
In terms of a morning meditation, this one is for a few major benefits that I was looking for in my life including:
In terms of having a meditation at night, this one was very important to me for these reasons:
How do I actually practice my meditation day in and day out?
Maybe to your surprise, you really don't need to carve out that much time from your day in order to meditate, maybe 10-20 minutes in the morning and the same amount at night. We can all find an extra 20 minutes or even 40 minutes when you start getting better at meditation and see some more powerful benefits. Just get off of social media at night an right away in the morning and I bet that opens up enough time for you to meditate!
In terms of the exact routine that I go through it is actually pretty simple:
The Benefits of Meditation in College
Just read this, you will want to start meditating ASAP in order to see some results such as these...
Who doesn't want better health, happiness, sleep, relationships and even grades? Everybody wants that and this one habit has the power to help you with all of those things.
You will start to relax more at night and reach a deeper sleep for a longer period of time, meaning that you could potentially get better sleep with fewer hours in bed. A lot of people, especially in college, are tired when they wake up even if they get 8 hours of sleep and that is because they are not reaching a deep sleep for long enough each night.
Meditation is a great habit to help you reach that deeper sleep each night and just one of many sleep hacks that I use, you can read about my other college sleep hacks here >>
As I mentioned above, meditation has helped me organize my thoughts much more and increase my memory as I can go over what I learned each day as well as reach a deeper sleep faster which will allow your brain to rest more and develop more neural connections helping with your memory. This means you can potentially start to improve your grades and remember more on tests.
There are some other brain "hacks" in college in order to remember more and study less and I highly recommend you check those out here if you are looking to improve those grades >>
Finally, in terms of your mindset and happiness, you can start to let go of things that are holding you back or dragging yourself down and making you sad and that is one of the best thing you can do for yourself, there are specific meditations for this if you search what you are feeling on YouTube.
This means that you can start to enjoy your days more and what you have, rather than constantly chasing that next thing to make you happy. When you are more happy, people enjoy being around you more and you will start to see and improvement in your relationships.
How You Can Start Meditation Today in College
How to start, where to find time and so much more.
A quick action plan for starting your college meditation routine today and improving your sleep, happiness, grades and so much more.
What To Watch Out For
You will run into these obstacles, don't get discouraged.
We all run into these as it's just part of stepping outside of the comfort zone and growing as a person.
Don't get discouraged as you are going to have an unfocused mind and catch your mind wandering many times when you first start, even for the first month I have noticed.
Just catch yourself and bring yourself back into the mindset of being all into the meditation, it will improve over time as this is a skills we all have to work on and get better at.
Other than a more relaxed mind and getting rid of stress you might not see any results the first week or two just because it takes time to fully start getting the results you can get so don't give up so easily.
Will I Continue to Meditate?
The being question here with a quick and simple answer... yes!
With all of the benefits I have seen after just the first month I really can wait to see where this takes me and I hope you join me on this journey as well. This is something that can impact your life and have lasting benefits when you stick with it, so don't just try it and then quit after a while, you will benefits yourself greatly in the long run if you stick with it.
This is also one thing that can help you develop your values and personality more which is super crucial to helping you stand out in the competitive job market where everyone seems to have the same skills as you.
Are you looking for more habits like this you can start to work on and set yourself apart in college or even just find some more happiness? Let me send you a few per week you can try out and start developing a routine for yourself, click here to get started >>
Thanks and have a great rest of your day,
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Summer, a love hate relationship whether it is in college or later in your high school career.
You are finally out of classes but now you have to work what seems like even more hours and without your friends just to make some money and be able to support yourself throughout the school year.
And it never seems that those summer jobs pay even close to enough to help get you through the school year, especially if you like to have experiences and travel more like myself. Well, there may be a solution to that if you are looking to put in a little extra work outside of your job.
That is with a side hustle, something that you can actually start today and will make you some consistent money if you put in the work. These are going to be simple things to start and no I am not going to be talking about Shopify stores or any of that, just not my niche and I want to give you actionable items that are a little easier to start!
So, let's jump in.
Why You Need A Side Hustle
That rent isn't going to pay itself.
Everyone needs to pay for things like rent and food while in school, and if they can travel because that is one of the most important ways to start to experience life.
Even just rent and food is sometimes hard with just a summer job because you are taking too many classes to hold a job during the school year. A solution to this could be to take on a second job but you might get burnt out really fast pulling 12-14 hour days and you will not be enjoying summer at all.
Also, working two jobs could stress your relationships and friendships as you will never be around to hang out or when you are free you are just too tired to do anything. We don't want that, a side hustle might be a great solution as you could make around what you would make at a second job, but you pick your hours and usually it doesn't take as many hours as a second job would.
Plus, you don't have to tell your boss you need time off for anything with a side hustle vs a second job so you are a little more free. Having to organize time off on two jobs during the summer can be a huge headache.
If you are still on the edge about starting a side hustle, here is a checklist and a few things to think about when deciding if it is for your or not >>
The Different Types of Side Hustles
You have to find one you will enjoy or you won't put the work in to make it work.
Not all side hustles are made equal and the thing that most people fail at when choosing a side hustle is to choose one that actually fits their lifestyle.
For example someone who is looking to make some quick extra money without much work starts a Shopify store or starts a blog/ social media account in order to sell products or services and then see no results and quit. They didn't see results not because the side hustles didn't work but because they were not willing to put the work in or invest the money required for those types of side hustles to work.
In this case, they should have chosen something such as flipping, reselling, yard work, mowing lawns, etc that doesn't take as much of their time and isn't as hard to get started.
Here is a post that will explain a few of my favorite side hustles for both increasing your income as well as more creative side hustles that act as passion projects where you can start helping people and adding meaning to your life that your job isn't giving you.
Click here to visit that post >>
One of My Favorite Side Hustles To Increase Income
This might be the perfect beginner side hustle.
Now, let's say that you really don't have any skills you think could help anyone (yet) and really aren't sure where to start but you know you need that extra income because you have a trip or music festival coming up:)
That is where one of my favorite side hustles comes into play because while it may not be your long term play, it can be used as a stepping stone to increase your income while simultaneously building skills that will help you with your future jobs, businesses and side hustles.
This side hustle is known as "flipping" or reselling and I have been doing it for the last four years through high school and college and it is actually getting a little more popular now which is cool to see!
This involves finding items at low prices at places like garage sales, Marshall's. Goodwill, Ross or any type of store or sale like that and then flipping them on eBay or other selling apps for a profit!
The strategy is super simple actually and it will help you build skills in sales and marketing that will carry onto any other thing you do in life as no matter what field you are in you are going to have to sell and market.
Just take relationships for example, you have to sell yourself and your personality to a potential partner if you want them to date you.
Here is a post that breaks down the strategy for you in better detail than I can do in this already long post >>
Other Side Hustles to Pick Up This Summer
There isn't just one option though if you don't like the previous one.
Other than reselling here are a few more side hustles you can take on this summer in order to increase your income:
Some of these take more time than others and some of these are more hard labor orientated than others, you have to be self aware and know yourself and what will fit you the best.
Time to Start Experiencing More of Life
Don't be tempted to buy more stuff with this extra income, spend it on the right experiences.
Now that you have a little more knowledge it is time to use this to start that side hustle so that you can experience more of life. Whether that just be more date nights to different places you couldn't afford before or to start traveling more.
The number one reason that people get stuck in ruts and end up not experiencing life is that they lack the resources (time and or money) to do so. Some of that is actually not having the money and some of that is just thinking that traveling is way more expensive than it really is.
I eliminated one excuse of money for you already, even a side hustle can give you enough extra travel money!
And if travel is the way you want to start experiencing more of life, here is a post on how to get cheaper flights, usually one of the most expensive parts of getting anywhere >>
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Thanks and have a great day,
P.S. If you are looking to start reselling, there are a decent amount of scams that you have to watch out for that I will break down in this free guide, download that guide to spotting scams here >>
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Sometimes you just have no time to sleep, 8 hours a night in college? Forget about it.
From clubs to classes to homework and keeping a friend base, it seems like there is never enough time in college to get an adequate amount of sleep. Especially during finals week when you are stressed and struggling to even find 6 hours to sleep in between projects and studying for tests and trying to stay a little active still.
Well, I have been trying to hack my sleep for a while now using techniques from Dave Asprey as well as some of my own that I have been testing to see what is and isn't working. Lately I have been getting 6 hours of sleep and waking up with the energy like I got 10 or more hours of sleep.
Doesn't that sound great? You will free up some extra time at night to be with your significant other or even to just get a little extra work done because now you have essentially added a few hours to your day without sacrificing your energy levels.
I would actually say that I have had almost twice the energy that I used to have over the past months even though I have been sleeping 6-7 hours compared to the 10 hours I used to get.
Time to start waking up ready for the day and not needed to hit snooze 100 times on your alarm.
Step 1: Hack Your Nutrition
It controls every area of your life, so of course it impacts your sleep.
Whether you realize it or not, what you feed your body is one of the biggest things that determines your performance in every area of your life. If you eat better you will notice reduced brain fog, increased energy, better problem solving skills, improved happiness and of course, better sleep.
Food is to your body like fuel is to a car and when you don't put the right fuel into the car it is not going to run right.
I see so many kids in my classes complaining about their sleep, or lack there of, when all they ever eat is Taco Bell, Pizza and burgers, maybe adding one healthy meal a day.
They definitely are not getting the right nutrients from the foods they are eating and this is causing them stress and reduced brain function which leads to worse sleep.
When you start eating the foods that get you correct vitamins, or even taking supplements for vitamins you can't get in your diet, you will increase the amount of deep sleep you are getting. Deep sleep is where your brain rebuilds and grows at night, after a long day and when you get more deep sleep, you are going to wake up easier and more energized.
I have noticed that I almost never wake up during the night anymore since changing my diet and the other things below, and I used to wake up multiple times each night.
Step 2: Master Your Time
Control at least the last hour of your day.
Alone time might be the hardest thing to come by in college, but we can all spend that hour right before bed to ourselves as we are usually back home or in the dorm by that time of the day.
The importance of this last hour is to craft a night time routine that helps you release stress, take the lessons you learned that day, see what went well and what didn't and ultimately focus on growth.
Don't be responding to Snapchats or scrolling through social media, essentially act like you went to bed already because this time is for you, not responding to or worrying about other people's lives.
Use this time to do everything from brain development to meditation and here is a post that talks all about a night time routine >>
You owe it to yourself to spend at least an hour or two a day focused on yourself and your growth, not focused solely on what other people are doing.
Step 3: Everything About Lighting
Phone lighting, house lighting and why it matters.
This may seem like a weird one but it actually helps us in more ways than one when you control and focus on the lights you are exposing yourself to at night.
The worst nights for you at night are blue and white lights and unfortunately that is exactly the lighting that many of us have on our phone, computer and in our house. This includes everything from your phone screen to the new LED lights you might have put in your house, don't worry I am not going to say you can't use your phone anymore.
Starting with your house or dorm lighting, I know the overhead lights in the dorm are absolutely horrible white lights and those you definitely don't want before you go to bed, same with the new LED's in houses. At least change the rooms you are in before bed to more of a warm or ideally a red light before you go to bed.
Why though? Because just think about our natural evolution, as humans we are wired to go to sleep when the sunsets and that is when our body starts to produce more melatonin that helps us sleep. What color is the sunset? Warm red and orange hues, that is the colors you want in your house in order to produce more melatonin and help you sleep better.
Our bodies are not producing melatonin when they see the blue and white lights because those are simulating the middle of the day to our bodies.
A great place to start if you don't want to go and change your lights is to turn on "night shift" on your phone, which gets rid of the blue and white lights on your phone screen and makes it a warmer hue. There is also a software I use on my computer called f.lux that will help you do this on your computer as well.
Step 4: Lose the Phone
I'm sure you can lay off of social media for a few hours, if not you might have a problem.
Sorry, lied to you in the last section when I said I wasn't going to tell you to not use your phone, now I am but it is just for a little bit each day so don't worry.
But it is only for the last hour or two of the day, you choose. Just don't be on it right before bed because this is causing unneeded stress in your life right before bed.
Too many people are on social media right up until they shut their eyes and wonder why they have trouble sleeping. All this is doing is allowing you to compare your life to other's life and be focused on what they are doing, stressing you out even more because it looks like they are doing more than you.
Why bring the stress of social media and responding to other people's lives into your night time routine when all it does is make you get worse sleep?
Step 5: Activate Your Inner Monk
Don't skip this one, it is one of the most important.
Hands down one of the things that has helped my sleep the most,
By meditating for 10-20 minutes before bed I am able to let go of stress and clear my mind right before bed and that helps me reach a deeper and sleep faster, getting the most effective sleep possible.
Click here to see my college meditation routine >>
Plus, there are so many free ways to get started on YouTube with guided sleep meditations that are free. Honestly, you don't need to be paying for apps like Headspace every month when there are equally as good meditations on YouTube!
BONUS: Track Your Sleep
It's all in the numbers.
The best way to see your progress is to track your sleep, thank god for the new and free apps out here that can do just that for you.
These apps can track the amount of deep sleep you get, how many times you wake up during the night, your snoring and much more. You will get a new graph each day that shows the amount of sleep and deep sleep you got and at which points of the night you woke up.
These apps are easy to download if you search "sleep tracking on the app store" and especially helpful if you have a smartwatch. I use my Apple Watch every night to track my sleep!
Thanks for stopping by the blog, I hope you were able to find some value and let me know if you have any questions in the comments below.
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If you are in college meditating might be the last thing you would think to think about, let alone do. In between classes, social life, working out and going out, you have a lot on your plate already.
I am here to show you why adding meditation to your daily routine will be the best thing you do during your college career because it will improve everything from your memory to your relationships and even your happiness.
With very busy schedules in college and constantly wanting to be busy doing something with your friends, it is easy to lose yourself and what your values are. Meditation helps with that as it grounds you, organizes your thoughts and keeps you focused.
Don't discount this right away thinking you don't have all of this time to start meditating, it can be done in as little as 10-20 minutes a day and you can even do it right when you wake up and/ or right before you go to bed so that you don't have to stop what you are doing during the day.
How does that sound? College is all about personal growth and you can't do that when you are constantly around the ideas of other people, take at least a few minutes each day to organize your thoughts and set your personal values straight.
The Importance of Meditation
For the mind, brain, sleep and happiness.
There are a few main areas that meditation can help in as I have seen which include your sleep, your brain function, your relationships and your personal mindset.
Starting with your sleep, if you meditate before you go to bed every night you are going to clear your mind and organize your thoughts in a way that will help you get rid of all of the stress from the day that comes with going to college. You are not able to reach a deep sleep when you are stressed and this makes you tired the next day even if you sleep for 8 hours, instead when you start consistently meditating before bed, you will slowly increase the amount of deep sleep that you get meaning you will have better sleep in less time.
Next, in terms of brain function, you will start to see more clear ideas and more organized thoughts which means that you will be able to problem solve better and solve the solutions. Also, you will start to reduce "brain fog" which happens when your brain just isn't performing at optimal function and you really don't even realize you have this until you start to clear it up and you see what you have been missing.
That all makes sense but how is this going to help your relationships though?
Easy, as I mentioned above meditating in college will help ground you in a world where you are surrounded with people 24/7 and constantly feeding off of their ideas. When you start meditating and realizing what your own values are you can start to display those in your every day life, attracting more like minded people and potential partners if that is what you are looking for.
Finally, you can start to notice an improvement in your overall mindset and mood as you will bring about these values that I talked about above which will bring new meaning and confidence into your life. Everyone needs a little confidence to carry themselves.
When you focus on clearing your mind and getting rid of that stress that comes with the day to day grind of college, you start to feel more happy as well as you are living more in the moment and taking all of these unneeded weights off of your shoulders.
Misconceptions Around Meditating
No, it's not just for old monks.
When a lot of people hear the word meditation they think about some old guy sitting on a mountain with his legs crossed going "Ummmmmmmmmmm, Ummmmmmmmmmmmm."
While meditating outside is definitely the best place to do so, nothing else about this picture is true really. Sure, maybe back in the day the only people meditating were monks and older people, but now it is actually a very common practice across most fields of work, especially for the top CEO's around the world.
For obvious reasons too, as I stated above, what CEO doesn't need to get rid of stress or maximize their sleep? I can't name a single one.
Another common misconception is that you have to spend days or even an hour meditating and that just doesn't fit into a lot of people's schedule. While there is retreats for meditations, us college kids don't have extra money for that or the time, instead meditation can be done in as little as 10 minutes per day or as long as you need to.
If you search for guided meditations on YouTube, they come up with meditations as short as 3 minutes to some as long as a few hours.
Finally, the last misconception is that right when you finish meditating the first time you will start to see results, while that may be true for some people, most likely it is going to take a week or two of consistent meditation before you start to see a new state of mind.
How Meditating Will Help You in College
Increase happiness, problem solving ability, sleep and much more.
College comes with a lot of social pressures, everything from going out to parties to trying to fit in and even trying to find a potential relationship.
Combine that with a large amount of homework and pressure to do good in school and outside of school and you find yourself under a large amount of stress each day. When you are stressed you sleep worse, you perform worse on tests and you are more irritable.
How about you try meditating to get rid of that stress, start the day off more happy and positive and not thinking about problems that stress you out right away in the morning.
When you start to de-stress and organize your thoughts through meditation you are also going to start to be able to work through problems better so you won't be thinking about a million other things as you are trying to solve the problem. This can lead to improved test scores and ability to comprehend information in class, something we all need improving in.
Finally, probably the most important thing is that meditation can increase the amount of happiness in your day to day life throughout college. Surprisingly, a ton of college kids are not happy, due to social and academic pressures, and are just going through the motions of their day, a lot of people actually fall into depression in college as it is really the first time you are alone and out in the world. (I write more about this here, in "The College Happiness Epidemic" >>)
Why would you not want to be more happy during the day? This will also translate to better results inside the classroom and outside the classroom, because more people will enjoy being around you if you are happy.
How You Can Start Meditating Today
It's as simple as 10 minutes per day, I think you can find that much time.
It is not as had as you might think it is to start meditating, it just takes some dedication because like anything you start for the first time, you are going to be uncomfortable and not the best at it.
When you first start to meditate you are likely going to see your mind wander a lot and it will be hard for you to stay focused, this happens to everyone so just stick to the habit if you ant to see results.
Here is how you can get started:
Thanks for stopping by the blog, I would love to share some more habits with you that I have found work amazing in college as there are so many that can help you do anything from study less and remember more to find more happiness in your day to day. Click here if you are interested in those habits >>
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Everyone has told you how college was the best four years of their life, from your parents to your friend's parents and even your teachers. But now you are there and you just aren't happy...
"Is this really the best four years of my life, I'm miserable."
I was in the same position and surprisingly there are a large number of college kids who are thinking that same thing each and every day.
College is a combination of social pressure, your first taste of freedom, hard classes and so much more that gets thrown at you all at once. Honestly it can be super overwhelming.
Especially when it comes to the social aspects of college, usually with even more social pressure than we had in high school and that feeling you need to be doing what everyone else is doing to fit in.
That is not how you are going to find some more happiness in college, no matter what the reason you are unhappy is. When you just conform to what everyone else is doing and never take time for yourself you will never find out how to make yourself more happy.
If you are questioning your college experience so far, you are not alone and there are ways to improve it, just keep reading.
What is The College Happiness Epidemic?
You roll out of bed everyday, go to class, grab some food, maybe do some homework and then head to the gym. Then on the weekends you go drinking with some friends and maybe hit a few parties while you are at it. Repeat that for four years and that is most kids' college experience.
College is not at all what you see in movies though, or even on TV during sports games. Sure, maybe a few weekends in the fall there will be giant parties for football games if you go to a larger D1 school, but in reality college is almost the opposite.
You spend more time alone than you might have been used to before and a lot of kids have trouble dealing with that. In high school they were surrounded by their closest friends fro 8 hours a day and were always in contact with them. Now, they get to college and even when they make some new friends, they still have countless hours a day where they are alone with their thoughts because their friends are busy, studying, in class, or with other people.
This gets to be too much for a lot of people to handle and that is when the unhappiness and sometimes depression starts to kick in. They aren't used to having to be alone so much and really don't know what they enjoy personally, outside of say a sport, because they were always with their friends hanging out after school during high school.
This overwhelming amount of time alone in college got to me as well, I felt super alone and really didn't know how to combat it that first year of college. It seemed like everyone else was always doing something and I wasn't, I later realized that this was just my confirmation bias as they would only post on social media when they were doing things, not when they were spending all the other time alone.
Since then, I have found ways to start to shift the focus of all of that alone time and start enjoying your time with yourself much more, because it is actually super valuable.
I would like to preface this by saying I do have a strong friend group and it is still possible to feel alone even with that, and is actually more common than not.
Why So Many Kids Are Unhappy in College
Yet you would never know based on their social media feeds.
It all starts probably junior year of high school when you start looking at colleges and picking where you would like to go. This is the time where everyone older than you seems to be saying how college was the best four years and telling you all their crazy stories. Whether you realize it or not, this builds up in your mind that college is some magical place that you have super high expectations for.
Then when you get there and realize that that is not at all what it is like, you start to feel lost and confused as it is not living up to the very high expectations you had for it. Honestly, some people have such high expectations for college that I don't think the experience could ever live up to their expectations.
Social media is also creating a crazy amount of sadness in college and for very obvious reasons. Just think about it, you only post the parts of your life that you want others to see on social media, and everyone else does exactly that. Except we seem to forget that when we are sitting in our dorm room and scrolling through social media for hours at a time thinking how everyone is having a way better time in college than you are.
Actually, those are just the highlights of their life and they are likely doing exactly the same as you are doing, even though it might not look like it. Same can go for the stories your parents were telling you about college, nobody is going to tell the stories of all the boring days, they are going to tell you the story of that one night out of all four years of college that was absolutely crazy.
Why This is A Problem
If it isn't clear already...
With such high expectations going into college, or going into any situation for that matter, you really are not going to be able to ever live up to them.
Combine that to comparing your college experience with the experience that everyone seems to be having on social media and you are bound for unhappiness.
You don't want to be unhappy with all of this extra time you have to yourself in college as it just is not going to be productive at all and you will just be digging yourself deeper and deeper into a hole you don't want to be in.
Instead, we need to start finding more happiness and take control of that extra time to do things we actually enjoy rather than sitting on social media comparing our lives to other peoples lives and feeding your unhappiness.
How to Start Finding More Happiness In College
Yes, this should take priority over parties.
While all the parties are fun the first semester of the first year, honestly after a while they just get super repetitive and it feels like you are living the same weekend over and over. Going to the same bars or clubs or same house parties with the same people.
This leads to extra social pressure now because you feel like you have to go out to the same bars and everything with these people all the time in order to fit in.
Start taking time off from the parties and spend your weekends focused on yourself or doing things you actually enjoy. If your "friends" shame you for doing this or not wanting to go out, were they actually your friends?
The way to start finding more happiness in college is building deeper relationships and doing more of what you are enjoying, not going to the bars all the time. Start spending some nights in and getting closer to these people that you just met, you will learn so much more about them and it will strengthen your friendship, giving you a little more happiness.
Honestly though, the thing that has helped me the most has been taking control of all of that time that I had alone already and being more productive than just gaming or sitting on social media.
I started creating better habits for myself, going outside more, creating a morning routine and doing some more meaningful work on the side of classes. (You can read about all of these habits by clicking here >>)
I also sat down and took the time to figure out what I actually enjoyed, which can actually be harder than it sounds when you are in college and just going with the flow of what everyone else is doing, you can lose who you really are and what you really enjoy trying to fit in.
That lead me to signing up for my now second study abroad and not going out to the bars as I realized traveling was what I really enjoyed the most in life, I was always happiest then.
Take some time to yourself, figure out who you actually are and what you actually like, not this image you might have created for yourself to try to fit in at college.
An Action Plan to Happiness
A step by step on how to start enjoying your day more.
Taking time for yourself
Things to Think About
You have to realize that you are not at all alone if you are feeling this way in college, many more kids feel this way than not yet they just never take the time to open up to anyone about it and that is why you never hear anything about kids being unhappy in college.
Most kids just go out and party to hide the fact that they are actually super sad or are not doing what they actually love and this can lead to many bad habits.
I applaud you for taking the action to search for some help to your happiness problem and I hope some of these strategies were able to help you.
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