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How to Get Out of Your Head and Actually Do Something Today

12/11/2019

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Let's face it, this is something we all need help with.

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5... 4... 3... 2... 1... Do it.

Yes, it really is that simple but we simply never get to the "do it" part.

We get stuck in our heads, debate ourselves for a little bit and then realize we don't feel like doing anything that will get us towards whatever goals we may have, so we "hit snooze" on our progress.

No matter what it is, everything from starting that business to getting to the gym more often or even just getting out of your dang bed in the morning without hitting snooze 10 times.

Our problem is that we are not getting moving fast enough and as a result we end up getting trapped in our heads.

We all know where that leads to...

GETTING NOTHING DONE!

We get trapped in our heads and there is like a 2% chance that we actually take action after that happens.

We usually try to justify why we don't need to do whatever the task is that needs to get done and likely it is because we don't "feel like it."

Well, NEWSFLASH.... we are NEVER going to feel like doing anything hard, not is just human nature.

Instead, we have to learn to push through despite how we feel.

The 5 Second Rule by Mel Robbins

If you have been around MMNTM for a while now, you know that this all started from when I was trying to improve my mindset and sharing what has worked for me with you guys and this case scenario is no different.

After listening to a podcast a while back and actually re-listening to it today, I decided I had to write this post because this simple "hack," if you want to call it that, is so dang effective.

So simple, yet one of the things that has almost forced me to take the most action because let's face it we are all naturally lazy at some point in our lives.

Time to get onto the next phase and force yourself to not be lazy because if we waited for ourselves to feel "motivated," we simply would never get anything done.

​Mel Robbins explains this techique that is almost so stupidly simple you would be hesitant to call it a technique.

Whenever something that you know you should, or need to do, comes into your mind, count down from five and then do it.

Don't count down from five and then think about it because then you get trapped in your head and it never gets done.

Count down from five and before you even know the first step, start doing something.

You don't need to have some crazy plan, you just need to start doing something after counting down from five because then you build the momentum to do more after that first action.

It's pretty much fool proof and forces you to "do" without getting trapped in your head trying to figure out and debate if you feel like doing it or not.

This technique takes zero consideration on how you feel and usually that is exactly what we need. The way we feel has been holding us back from far too many actions.

Here is the link to the School of Greatness Podcast where Mel Robbins goes over this in more detail (click here) >>

As per usual, another great day on the blog is in the books! Thanks for all the support and if you enjoyed this or learned anything I just ask one thing: bring a friend back tomorrow! Time to make personal development more "normal" because it is at the foundation of every area of our lives. Stop back with a friend tomorrow-- yourmmntm.com/blog

-Taylor

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The Best Fast For Your Mindset: The Complaining Fast

12/2/2019

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Yes, I just started this and it might be the best thing you will do this week.

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What do you think about when you hear the word "fasting?"

Usually what pops into our mind is intermittent fasting, water fasting and just taking a break from food for an extended period of time.
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While the benefits of these types of fasts are wonderful for our mindset and overall health, there is one fast that might take the cake in terms of benefits to our mindset.

If we extend the definition of "fasting," that we have set in place, to include anything and everything that we could abstain from for an extended period of time, we can include complaining as a type of fasting.

And that is exactly what we are going to do.

Time to learn why committing to a fast of this powerfully bad habit might be best thing you'll focus on this week.

Why Do We Complain?

It's just so easy.
Don't lie, we all complain and for a lot of us it takes over our days, it impedes on the actions we take on a day to day basis and eventually it will hinder results in anything you are trying to accomplish.

Complaining is essentially the path of least resistance in our lives because it helps us to avoid taking the actions that will help solve our problems.

I never said the path of least resistance was in any way a good thing, it is just as it states, the path with the least amount of obstacles.

Our brains naturally gravitate towards doing what is easy and what requires less work. We have to train them to do the "hard stuff," until we do that we are naturally going to be gravitating towards the easy things and getting nothing done.

I am sure you already experience this, wanting to watch Netflix instead of studying and wanting to almost anything other than go to work today.

Complaining helps us to avoid the action, and avoid the obstacles when in reality that is what we should be chasing if we want to start having a fulfilling life.

Contrary to popular belief, it is not "motivation" that you need, instead try a little mental discipline to start getting more done.

Complaining Is Wreaking Havoc On Our Lives

It's almost as bad as having a health problem and potentially worse.
"How does it impede on our action and hinder results? We are just complaining..."

True, but what we think and say have a direct correlation to our actions.


If we are thinking negatively and complaining about the problem, there is no way that we are going to take action to solve that problem anytime in the near future.

We are going to push it off until it either really needs to get done or you forget about it, I'm sure you can relate.

This just pushes us further and further away from our goals as this lack of action starts to add up day after day.

We are essentially complaining our way out of achieving our goals and until we get it under control we are not going to find the "success" we are looking for.

The Complaining Fast

Let's get you started...
Start with a day, then carry the momentum to the handful of days after that.

Pick a period of time to start, that you know you can push through the temptations to complain so that you can start to see the results of eliminating this from your life.

Try a three day complaining fast to start, the first day is going to be easy because it is at the top of your mind and it is something new and challenging.

It is those next couple of days that are going to be challenging. You are going to be so tempted to complain that you might just fall for the temptation. Don't worry if you "break the fast," just start over then and there, at day one.

Three days is long enough to challenge yourself but not too long that you are not going to take action.

You have to find the balance that is long enough to challenge yourself but not too long to scare you away right away, even though eventually your goal will likely be to totally eliminate complaining after you see how it impacts your life.

And how your life will change when you stop complaining...

This is something that you are not just going to be able to feel, but other people are going to notice as well.

Do you know what that means? It means that people are going to be more attracted to you and more inclined to be around you if you are more positive and complaining less.

Why? For the simple fact that you are not going to be bringing down the energy anymore from complaining and you are going to be more enjoyable to be around, leading to all sorts of opportunities in personal and professional relationships.

That's not the only thing though, when you stop your complaining, you force yourself to look at and actually take action on the things you have been pushing off or just any problems that are in your life.

Maybe you just had a lot to get done in order to get your finances in line, now you can do that.

Or maybe you have been pushing off doing any "meaningful work" in your life because you have just complained about picking up extra work, now you can start that.

We all have those things that we keep pushing of until "later" and eventually "later" turns into never getting done.

​Time to change that equation and start to gain real momentum in your life by taking off this negative lens that a lot of us are seeing the world through. It all starts with reducing our complaining.

What do you say, time for a fast?
As per usual, another day on the blog is in the books! Thanks for all the support and if you enjoyed this or learned anything I just ask one thing: bring a friend back tomorrow! Time to make personal development more "normal" because it is at the foundation of every area of our lives. Stop back with a friend tomorrow-- yourmmntm.com/blog

-Taylor

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Why Some People Are So Likable and How You Can Learn From Them

11/22/2019

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Essential to developing personal and professional relationships.

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The High School Example

A look at why some people were actually so popular in high school.
Before you skip this section, no it is not what you think the answer is... It is not because they were in sports, are more attractive or are more confident than others.

Crazy, right? That's exactly why I thought the most popular kids were the way they were, until I started to dive a little deeper.

Now that what you thought was for sure the answer is off of the table, what could it possibly be?

This might surprise you, depending on the experience that you had in high school, but they were simply just more interested in other people than others were.

They were interested in what was going on in others' lives and kept up to date and supported whatever they were doing.

Unlike a lot of the people who claimed they were "no popular" and proceeded to go throughout their day not talking to anyone because they either didn't think they fit in or they didn't have the confidence to talk to anyone.

And what does not talking to people lead to? A lack of interest in their lives.

So, sorry to break the stereotype in high school or even college, but if you want to be more likable, you have to start taking a genuine interest in other people's lives.

Be interested to be interesting...

What Being Interested in Others Means

This has to be genuine, plain and simple.
What exactly does being interested in others mean?

Well, pretty much exactly what you can assume it means. It means keeping up with what is going on in their life, what they are working on, what their point of view on topics is and supporting whatever they choose to take on.
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This is absolutely essential to form relationships and if you are struggling to form any meaningful relationships, I would venture to guess that this is part of the problem.

Just take the example of sales people trying to keep an existing client, they have to keep constantly calling the same clients and checking in on their personal lives, wishing them a happy holidays and seeing how their kids are doing.

This builds trust for the continued relationship in the business, making sure the client wants to keep doing business with them, and it is a dang effective strategy.

Or even take a simpler example of going on a date, you can't just show up to a date and talk about yourself, you have to ask them questions and take an interest in what they are doing.

A date is not a time to "flex" what you are doing or have done in your life, it is a time to build a genuine connection and you do so through asking questions and being interested in them.

​If that is new advice to you, that might be the problem in your dating life.

And how exactly does this get people to like you more?

Who doesn't like talking about themselves? Nobody, it is the topic that we all could go on and on about.

From where we are from, to what we are working on and what our goals are, it is at the top of the list of our favorite topic to talk about.

When you keep asking them questions about themselves, and then following up with questions to their responses, you start to dive really deep into the thoughts and beliefs of someone and there is no better way  to connect with them.

You get out of the "surface level" conversations faster and into the more meaningful conversations that you both will remember.

Even if you don't say much about yourself during the time with them, they will feel as if you have created a meaningful relationship because of the conversation you were able to have.

What Being Interested is Going to Add to Your Life

So much more than you think.
With the importance of relationships being so prevalent in our lives, it is no surprise that this will impact many areas of your life.

Relationships help to motivate us, bring us happiness and fulfillment and help us reach those goals better than we would have been able to otherwise, and the main benefit of being interested in others is the stronger relationships you are going to be able to form.

From work relationships to romantic relationships, you are going to build more trust in these people and have them enjoy the time they spend around you more, helping your personal and professional lives.

This is also going to attract many more people into your life, some that you might "mesh well with." You really never know when you are going to meet that person that has a dramatic impact on your life, and connecting with more people, on more than just the surface level, is exactly how to find those people.

It isn't just about stronger relationships though, when you take up an interest in other people's lives, you start to gain a wider knowledge base in return.

I mean, how can you not? Diving deep into topics that people care about, you are going to know and understand so much more than you did before and this can start to open up new opportunities as well.

Realize that everyone has something to teach you no matter who they are or what their background may be.

Finally, you can start to understand people better, understand how they think and act and why they are thinking the way that they are. You can start to notice patterns in thinking of similar types of people and even just understand the person you are attracted to better in order to figure out how to improve the relationship.

This one simple mindset "hack" can help you in so many more ways than you think, I would highly suggest picking it up if you haven't been convinced already.

Training Yourself to Be More Interested by: MMNTM, the Gym for Your Mind

As always, a little workout to end the blog.
I don't like to leave you hanging without some ways to actually become more interested in life, so you can actually start seeing the benefits instead of just reading about them. So, here are some quick exercises to help you get more interested and start being more interested in other people...

First, simply start off with being more interested in your own life. Figure out a handful of topics that you are interested in and start to pick up some books, listen to some podcasts and just start learning more about these topics.

When you start to learn more about what you care about, you are going to start breaking down the topic more and realize what you need to learn about. Before you do so it's simple to say "oh I need to learn about marketing," until you actually jump in and realize there are a million subsets to learn about as well.

This naturally makes you more interested and this can carry over to becoming interested in other people because you realize that everyone has something to teach you (even if it just is what not to do).

Finally, when you are talking to people, just start asking more questions and talking less. This will seem weird at first but you will see how you can dive into deeper conversations by doing so, just don't keep asking basic questions like "where are you from."

I'm not saying to never talk about yourself or bring up your opinion, just ask more questions than you do talk about yourself. This is going to lead to a great conversation, I can almost guarantee that.
Just like that another day on the blog is in the books! Thanks for all the support and if you enjoyed this or learned anything I just ask one thing: bring a friend back tomorrow! Time to make personal development more "normal" because it is at the foundation of every area of our lives. Stop back with a friend tomorrow-- yourmmntm.com/blog

-Taylor

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I Finally Found Out Why I Have Been Struggling to Build New Habits

11/9/2019

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It might be the exact same reason you aren't keeping habits as well...

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Here's the Backstory...

Sure, just like many of you I was reading countless personal development books and reading a million articles on changing my day to day habits because I wasn't where I wanted to be in life.

I knew I needed to course correct, yet every time I would read these books or articles, nothing would really change.

I thought that this was just not the right book, so I would move onto the next one, and the next one, and the next one.

Even when I actually started to implement these habits into my life, they would work well for a week and then I would slowly fall back into my old ways.

And that was if I actually implemented them in my life, a lot of the time I just read about them to make myself feel good.

Why This Turned Into A Major Problem

This turned in to a problem when I was reading and learning a lot so I felt good, but I was really not changing any area of my life.

My work was still the same and not accelerated in any way, shape or form. My fitness was about the same and I couldn't really see any major changes there and my happiness was at the same level as well.

Despite having the resources available, I was not able to effectively add habits into or keep them in my life.

I was going through the motions for months on end for honestly no reason at all other than I was convincing myself that the barrier to entry was so high, or I kept pushing off starting the habit until "tomorrow" and saying this everyday turned into never starting.

It was single handedly slowing down the results I was getting in all areas of my life.

Where We Go Wrong Trying to Form Habits

For me, I assumed that when I wanted to form a new habit, I had to carve out a chunk of my day to focus on this habit.

I though that it was going to take hours out of my day and that I just didn't have that kind of time to dedicate in my already busy college days.

There simply isn't enough time in the day.

We only have a  certain amount of time in each day, in reality building habits doesn't require you to take hours upon hours out of your day, like many people may believe.

Instead, there is a way to add them to your day without spending too much extra time doing so.

Of course, this is all situational, for example, if you want to add the habit of going to the gym every day or going on a walk in the morning, obviously you are going to have to carve out some time in the day for that.

Time to Fix This Issue

For every other "small" habit we want to add though, there definitely is a way to start adding these habits to our lives without carving out a ton of time from our day.

It can't get much better than this because obviously the habits we have are not ideal if we aren't heading in the direction of our goals, so we NEED to change them.,

Yes, for a lot of us this is a "need to" and not a "want to" because otherwise we are never going to fulfill those goals that we have laid out for ourselves.

"How exactly can I get started now?"

By attaching these new habits to things you are already doing on a day to day basis.

That way we are not taking a ton of extra time during our days to add habits and that we can just change how we are doing things compared to totally changing what we are doing on a daily basis.

Small changes are the best place to start, if we try to jump right into totally flipping our lives inside out, we are likely going to get burnt out.

I want to give you the best chances to keep these habits for the long run so you can actually see them start to transform your life and this is how I believe the best way to do so is.

Why This Can Work For You When You Have Been Struggling to Build Habits

Just think about it...

You want to add ten new things in to your life so you start to do so, on top of the other things that you likely have to be doing on a daily basis, such as going to work and doing some errands, and you quickly run out of hours in the day.

Instead, you can start to change up how you are doing things on a daily basis and then carve out just a little time to focus on your habits throughout the day. 

That way you aren't spending all off your time focused on your habits because that kind of ruins the point of adding new habits.

​We want to add new habits so that we get closer to our goals and if we spend all of our time on building those new habits, we are never going to have time to actually work towards your goals.

This was another problem for me early on, I was so focused on developing my mindset so I could have more confidence to build new relationships, try new things and have a better mindset to attack my goals, that my whole day was structured around devleoping a new mindset and I really had no time to work towards any goals.

Always be self aware while changing any aspect of your life so that you don't get in this trap of feeling good about changing a smaller aspect and never leaving time to change what you actually set out to change.

Put This Into Action In Your Own Life

You might be sitting there pondering about how to add this into your own life. Ponder no more because I will give you some great examples that will help everyone add some new habits.

Ultimately though, we all have different habits we want to add and do different things on a daily basis, so use these as examples and then figure out how to add your habits to what you are already doing each day.

Maybe you want to be more mindful or present in your life. Instead of taking the time to go on a walk without your phone for 45 minutes and meditate for another 20-30 minutes, try taking your commute to school or work without music or technology, live in the present.

Maybe you want to add more physical exercise to your day. Try going to the gym during your lunch break at work or even before you leave school. Don't wait until later, after you get home and wind down for the day, to decide to go to the gym.

Maybe you want to eat healthier, instead of buying junk at the grocery store, just buy what you know you will eat for meals during the week and eliminate snacks all together. Or pack your meals for work or school so that you aren't tempted to stop on the way home because you are so hungry, you will have a meal right with you.

Or maybe you are trying to get more work or homework done during the day. Instead of having your phone near you, turn it off and put it in a different room (or even lock it in your car). I will almost bet that you will get the same amount of work done in that time without your phone than you would have gotten done with your phone if you would have added another few hours to your work day.
Just like that another day on the blog is in the books! Thanks for all the support and if you enjoyed this or learned anything I just ask one thing: bring a friend back tomorrow! Time to make personal development more "normal" because it is at the foundation of every area of our lives. Stop back with a friend tomorrow-- yourmmntm.com/blog

-Taylor

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The Turning Point Each Day, What Shifts The Momentum of My Productive Days

10/29/2019

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We all have those good days that somehow turn bad. Here is where I have found the turning point is so we can avoid it...

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I know we all have these days, many of us have them often and I know for a fact that I get super discouraged when my day doesn't pan out as I pictured it in my mind.

What days am I talking about? I'm talking about when you wake upon feeling energized, ready to go and start to get a lot of things done and then all of the sudden I catch myself later in the day having gotten nothing productive done, or nothing done to get me closer to my goals.

What happened? Well, let me paint you a picture real quick here...

Here's How The Days Start

(insert annoying alarm clock sound)

It's early in the morning and my alarm goes off, but for once I actually am looking forward to getting up as I am well rested and have big goals for what to get done and learn today.

So, I get started.

I take a nice walk after getting out of bed and kill my morning workout.

I eat a very healthy breakfast, usually some eggs and broccoli and then hit some meditation for ten minutes before jumping into the blog and other work to be done for the day.

The day seems to be going flawlessly for the first few hours and I am grinding out a ton of work as my brain is clear after a nice meditation, walk and a good nights sleep.

I even crank out a little more homework that I had from last night that I needed to get done before heading to class.

The mental discipline is through the roof in the morning, sticking exactly to my plan and not deviating from what I know is the "right decision."

Not eating those cookies right away in the morning and causing brain fog or sleeping too long and causing unneeded stress in my life.

Then One of the Following Happens

Then what happens?

I fall off course just a little.

I eat those cookies, instead of sticking to the meal plan during the day.

Or, I push off working on my goals in place for watching Netflix or YouTube videos.

Or I don't do my homework that night and push it off until the next morning because I just don't feel like doing it.

Or I sit on social media for far too long instead of reading or learning something that day.

Anddddd The Rest of The Day Starts to Look Like This

I start to have the mindset that "oh I already fell off track once, one more time won't hurt," thinking I will still be able to get everything done.

I eat more junk and cause myself to experience brain fog and just get lazy the rest of the day, not getting anything done.

I miss the gym thinking that I will have more time to do things and then next thing I know, I am two hours deep on a Netflix movie instead.

I keep pushing off homework because I will have time tomorrow, then do nothing productive and cause myself for sure stress for the morning.

I chose YouTube over working or learning about what I am passionate about and next thing you know I am pushing off everything until "tomorrow when I have more time."

But guess what, this same thing happens tomorrow and next thing you know "tomorrow" turns into two weeks later you are finally getting to work on what you want (for a few days at least) and you feel very behind.

Once you have that one action, or a combination of actions, that switch the momentum for our days, it gets choppy from there. 

So, stay in control of the day and win the mind game!

Repeat this for years and this is how many people live...

What Kind of Results This Leads To In Life

Countless days/ weeks/ months/ years of inaction.
"Tomorrow" becomes the most common phrase of the week when you are constantly thinking you are somehow going to have more time tomorrow.

Or thinking that you will just get started "tomorrow" because getting started today wasn't going to plan.

The problem is, a lot of us say this every day and then "tomorrow" turns into days, weeks, months or sometimes even years of in-action.

Meaning you aren't getting closer to your goals, you aren't working on what you are passionate about and you aren't excelling in life.

At this point we are just going through the motions and then so many people wonder why other people are so much more "successful" than they are, I wonder why...

Just remember, we are what we do, not just what we think about. Sure, thinking about your goals and planning them out in your mind will make you feel good, but they won't impact your life until you actually start doing them, not just pushing them off every day.

How to Course Correct This Habit

This is almost definitely a factor in why you are struggling in one area or another.
This is going to be one of the easier solutions to hear but open of the harder ones to actually implement as it will take a large amount of mental discipline, I know you guys are up for it though.

Usually around late morning, or maybe lunch time, through the early afternoon and evening are the times when you are going to start to be tested by your mind to start to do something that will switch the momentum for the day.

Maybe those Oreos are calling your name, maybe you haven't been on social media all day and you are itching to see what people are doing, maybe you have been dying to see that next episode on Netflix.

Whatever it may be that is tempting you to head off course of your goals that day, recognize it and force yourself to not get tempted. I never said it was going to be easy because sometimes all you want to do is eat that cookie or watch Netflix.

Right when we do that is when we start to lose the momentum we have created so far during the day and that is when the day starts to go downhill.

Once you make that one deviation, it is easier and easier to make more throughout the day until you realize that you really haven't gotten anything productive done for the day.

And with so many people having this happen right away in the morning when they lose the battle with their mind to get out of bed, no wonder so many people feel like they can't gain any traction.

Recognize when you are starting to get tempted and then force yourself not to, or at least push your deviation off as late into the day as possible.

​Pushing that deviation late into the day will be a good starting point if you feel like you just can't go all day without craving that "sweet tooth" or watching Netflix.
Wow, just like that another day on the blog is in the books! Thanks for all the support and if you enjoyed this or learned anything I just ask one thing: bring a friend back tomorrow! Time to make personal development more "normal" because it is at the foundation of every area of our lives. Stop back with a friend tomorrow-- yourmmntm.com/blog

-Taylor

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The Ten Second Rule You Can Use to Get Those Ideas Done That You Have Been Pushing Off Forever

10/21/2019

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We all have those creative, business, fitness and other ideas that would help improve our lives. Yet they never seem to get started, here's how to change that.

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The amount of ideas that come into our minds on a day to day basis is astonishing.

Good ideas, bad ideas, ideas that we never knew we were capable of having and all of those in between.

Whether it is related to a business you want to start, a body you are trying to shape in the gym, a new diet you want to try or even just a new skill you want to learn.

We all have them and do you know what else a lot of us have in common?

We all likely never start many of the ideas that we want to.

If you are like me, we have had so many great ideas that just seem to fade away after we keep pushing them off. They never get done and we just keep going through the motions of life.

Imagine if you could actually start getting these ideas acted on though? A simple rule that will help swing momentum in your direction, based around ideas you actually care about, can help you with that.

That's what the "ten second rule" is.
I almost forgot! If you are new to the blog, thanks for stopping by! With MMNTM (mo-men-tum) my goal is to help you level up your mind and mindset with effective "workouts." Much like you would train your body, this is the gym for your mindset, everything from your happiness and mental clarity to mental discipline and productivity. These are the things that have helped me the most and I love sharing them with you daily on yourmmntm.com/blog so be sure to stop out daily!

Now let's get back to what you started reading for.

Here's What You Are About to Learn

  1. Why You Might Not Be Getting Everything You Want to Done Each Day
  2. How You Are Subconsciously Sabotaging Your Results
  3. Why Pushing Off Tasks Until Later Is Not The Move
  4. The Ten Second Rule For Your Brain
  5. Why This Works
  6. What to Avoid When You Start Putting the Ten Second Rule Into Practice

​Why You Might Not Be Getting Everything You Want to Done Each Day

You just push it off until later, and later turns into tomorrow.
And then you start to tell yourself this every. single. day. and before you know it, you have been saying "tomorrow it will get done" for a year and you still haven't started (or barely started).

This is exactly why so many people never get that business started, or take action on any of the creative ideas they have.

Even when we are talking about the gym and getting. in shape, it just constantly gets pushed off when we tell ourselves that we are too busy.

​I think I told myself this countless times when I was trying to start a blog because of the simple fact that I enjoyed the idea mored than actually doing the work. 

When we are pushing ideas off like this, ask yourself why. Do you not want to do the work or do you actually have no time.

I would put money on the answer you just gave yourself, you don't want to do the work and that is why you are avoiding it.

That first step is always the hardest, but once you get the momentum in your direction, it is much easier to take action.

Once you write that first sentence, once you show up at the gym, once you start with a page of studying, once you eat one healthy meal, the next step is much easier than the first.

​How You Are Subconsciously Sabotaging Your Results

You might be doing the easy tasks first and staying busy so you don't have to get to the "hard things."
Yes, even if that is not what you want, you might be doing this subconsciously just because it is easier for your brain to stay busy and trick itself that you are being productive. That's kinda messed up isn't it?

Yes, but it doesn't have to stay like that.

Whenever an idea comes to your mind, it is likely going to be hard to get started for the simple fact that it is new and you don't know what you are doing right away.

So, what does our brain do? It keeps that idea in the back of our minds and keeps us thinking that we "will get to it later" as we work away on pointless tasks that really aren't getting us closer to our real goals.

Tasks like checking our email constantly or cleaning the house before you take action for the day. Even reading can be a distraction and considered "easy" because you don't have to try too hard mentally to read, definitely not as hard as you would if you were trying to do something new for the first time.

​Why Pushing Off Tasks Until Later Is Not The Move

This is mainly focused on important tasks in your day to day.
I want to preface this by saying that this is talking about pushing off ideas based around something you value and want to get better at in life, not any and all ideas that come to your mind.

If you started to act on every single idea that came to your mind, you would be doing nothing productive during the day, just a bunch of random tasks.

You would be getting a lot done but it would cause you to go nowhere fast, as you would be getting a lot of random goals done that are not at all aligned with something you really care about.

When you start to push things off until "tomorrow" or even just "later" you are showing yourself that it lacks importance in your life, even though that might not be true.

And when something isn't important in your life, you aren't going to spend time taking action on it even if you are thinking about it.

Just think about this in terms of relationships, when you place high value and importance on a significant other, that is all you think about and act on during the day.

That can be the same with your fitness and work as well, you just have to stop pushing the work off so that you aren't subconsciously telling your brain that whatever it is, is not important because you keep pushing it off.

​The Ten Second Rule For Your Brain

This might be exactly what you need to try all week.
Boom, a thought pops into your head.

What do most of us do? Push off acting on it until later.

Where does this lead us? To not taking action on it forever it feels like.

What if that changed though? What if you acted on the ideas that are relevant to your goals within the first ten seconds of thinking them?

Acting on them before they have the chance to leave your mind or they have the chance to decrease significance in your brain if you push them off until later.

Imagine all the things you could get done if you acted now instead of later? Im sure you would be 10x further along towards your goals.

It's a simple strategy that many are going to brush off because they are looking for the secret. This is the secret, the work is the secret to your goals and this is how you lower the barrier of entry for working on those big ideas.

Right when you have that idea, think about what the first thing you need to get done for it to play out is and start working on that "first thing."

​Why This Works

It works for two reasons.

First, it tells your mind that this is important and this topic is one that you should be focused on.

When you are watching Netflix all day, you are doing the same thing and that's why you keep watching Netflix, or keep eating junk food, because you are acting on those things and telling your mind that those are valuable in your life and they should be focused on.

But you can do the same thing with work, it is just going to take some time to start rewiring your brain to show it what you actually want to be valuing in your life through your actions.

You can't value something if you aren't acting on it.

That leads to the second reason why this works towards helping you get reach your goals.

It gets you taking more action on whatever the thing you want to start or work on is and more action leads to more progress.

Just thinking about starting something doesn't lead to progress, acting on it leads to progress. This is a habit to make yourself act on whatever "it" may be.

​What to Avoid When You Start Putting the Ten Second Rule Into Practice

Don't just use this to get "busy tasks" done, use it for the important things on your to-do list.
Start that work on your business you have wanted to start.

Start blogging, vlogging or just posting on social media about something you are passionate about.

Hit the gym and research everything you can on routines and diets that can change your life.

Take those next steps towards doing something valuable in your life, no matter what that might be.

Don't just use this as a "cop out" to keep yourself busy doing the random day to day tasks like cleaning every square inch of your house, just because you "thought about it."

We have to use this strictly for thoughts that help us move the ball forward in whatever area of our life that we are striving to get results in, but haven't been seeing any results yet.
Wow, just like that another day on the blog is in the books! Thanks for all the support and if you enjoyed this or learned anything I just ask one thing: bring a friend back tomorrow! Time to make personal development more "normal" because it is at the foundation of every area of our lives. Stop back with a friend tomorrow-- yourmmntm.com/blog

Now be sure to actually put what you learned to use, don't just read about it and make yourself feel like you are taking action, actually take action!

-Taylor

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Negative Thinking Works Too Well, It Is Slowing Down Progress Towards Your Goals

10/20/2019

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Sometimes it's not what you add to your life that makes the biggest impact, sometimes it's what you get rid of.

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Crazy how everytime you dread a situation and think something is going to go wrong, it actually goes wrong. 
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Whether you have a feeling the upcoming test is going to go poorly and that is all you think about or that you are never going to start that business because success is for "other people," so you never end up starting.

It will be no surprise then when I tell you that the negative energy and views we consume, have a much larger impact on our mindset than the positive ones that we consume.

Or when I tell you that our brains naturally gravitate towards the negative sides of life because first off, that is what a lot of us are surrounded by and second, it is just easier to think negatively and play the victim role.

A lot of this stems from our ancestors and how they were focused on avoiding threats in order to stay alive on a day to day basis.

I could rant here on how to start just thinking more positively in order to try and counteract this negative thinking but that simply won't work.

Why? Because we aren't even sure that positive thinking works, only if it is followed by actions do we really start to see the results.

And I know first hand that even if you start positive affirmations it won't help if your negative mindset is strong enough.

We have to tackle eliminating the negative first.

If we simply try to eliminate the negative thoughts from our life, by acknowledging them when they arise and changing them, we can have a much bigger impact on our lives than unsuccessfully trying to add positive thinking.

Picture This...

Every day you wake up and go through the same motions, go to the same job, eat at the same restaurant and see the same people.

You go on vacation once per year and count down the days until this trip every year.

You constantly complain about your situation, how others are just given so much more than you, how others are going more places than you and how others seem to have a "better" life than you.

You see everything from a negative light and never seem to see any results in the work you are doing or even at the gym and you start blaming everything, or everyone, but yourself.

The thought of your mindset affecting where you are in life, never really crosses your mind until it's the last thing you look at as nothing else seems to be working.

And recently nothing else has seemed to change any aspect of your life.

You have been stuck in the same routine, getting the same results and seeing the world from the same negative lens.

And that is why you are reading this article... Welcome to your solution.

"We aren't sure if positive thinking works for sure, but we do know for a fact that negative thinking works" -Trevor Moawad

​Negative Thinking and Your Goals

It doesn't help your goals in the slightest.
Wanna know what negative thinking does to your goals?

I'm sure you have experienced it many times when you were trying to reach a goal and how did that work out for you?

Likely not good, the negative thinking won out over action.

This is where negative thinking disables us, it gets us believing what we are thinking is true, rather than just seeing the thought as an objective thing that just came across our mind.

When we start believing these thoughts, we stop taking action because "what is the point of "wasting time" if I never will reach the goal?"

Without action, we have no progress towards anything in life and that is what negative thinking takes away from you.

And you know what? That work, progress and the process is everything when it comes to goals because there really is no end game.

When you get close or reach your first goal, you make a new one, so you are never really satisfied. This is why so man y people who seek happiness from end results find out that it is an empty pursuit.

Don't let negative thinking take the process away from you, time to take back one of the biggest aspects of your life.

​It's Not Always What You Add to Your Life

Sometimes it is what you subtract from your life, not just what you add or change.
It is kind of wild actually, all we see online, and I am guilty of this as well, are articles telling us what we should add to our lives.

From little hacks to boost your confidence to daily habits/ routines or even study habits.

What these articles fail to take into consideration though is that some people can't effectively add habits or things to their life without taking a look at, and getting rid of, some negative things in their lives already, such as a mindset.

That is likely why you keep struggling to build habits, and keep reading more habit building articles hoping that you will find "the right one."

Your mind is the foundation of everything in your life, you need a strong base to build off of if you want to build effectively.

​Getting Rid of Negative Thinking and Your Mindset

You can't build a strong mindset on a weak foundation.
So, how does getting rid of a negative mindset help you strengthen that foundation so that you can effectively build up other areas of your life?

Well, if you haven't gotten the memo yet, negative thinking plays probably the largest role in the amount of action you are taking towards your goals. If you start to eliminate that you can start to notice more willingness to take action without you mind constantly trying to avoid it.

​Oh and weird, when you start taking more action you are naturally going to get closer to your goals, who would have thought?!

What else can eliminating this negative mindset do for us?

Well, for me at least it has been extremely helpful in increasing my confidence level. It is not like I really set out to have this happen, it was just a nice bi-product of working on getting rid of negativity.

This increased confidence has broughten me into many new situations that I would have avoided at all costs before. These situations have allowed me to meet so many new people and bring new opportunities into my life.

You never known when you are going to meet someone that can have a large impact in your life, and if you are avoiding new situations, I would highly recommend you work on this... starting with removing negativity!

​Then maybe trying this out next >>

​Your "Mental Workout" For Today

How about some actionable tips on actually getting started removing negativity? Enough talk and time for some work.

Since the gym has played a large aspect in my life, even after sports ended in high school for me, I like to give these actionable advice in terms of "workouts" because your brain is a muscle too, you need to get "shredded" up top.

Exercise #1: Stay Off of Your Phone the First and Last Hour of the Day
Reps: 2x per day
Duration: 1 hour when you wake up, 1 hour when you are getting ready to sleep.
Notes: Start and end the day in control, not reacting to anything or consuming negative information right away.

Exercise #2: Stay off of Social Media for A Day
Duration: All day
Notes: If you can do this, see how much it can do for your mindset

Exercise #3: No News This Week
Duration: All Week
Notes: News his one of the most negative sources that you get consumed by everyday, eliminate it temporarily at least. I'm sure nothing that important is going to happen that day.

Exercise #4: Stop Complaining
Duration: Try all week
Notes: This is much harder than it sounds, but that means it will also have a larger impact on that voice inside of your head.

Exercise #5: Catch Yourself When You Say Something Negative or Are About To Say Something Negative
Duration: All Week
Notes: Much like complaining, this will have a much bigger impact than you realize. What you speak into existence helps shape how others see you as well as how you see yourself, control what you are saying more and put some thought into your words.

Yeah, don't let yourself have read this far and not take advantage of this great free resource from the top mental conditioning coach in professional sports, Trevor Moawad.

This podcast can totally change the way you think if it hits you at the right time, figure out if right now is your "right time."


Click here to listen to the Short Story Long Podcast Episode with Trevor, hosted by Chris Drama, founder of Young and Reckless >>

I almost forgot! If you are new to the blog, thanks for stopping by! With MMNTM (mo-men-tum) my goal is to help you level up your mind and mindset with effective "workouts." Much like you would train your body, this is the gym for your mindset, everything from your happiness and mental clarity to mental discipline and productivity. These are the things that have helped me the most and I love sharing them with you daily on yourmmntm.com/blog so be sure to stop out daily!

Now be sure to actually put what you learned to use, don't just read about it and make yourself feel like you are taking action, actually take action!

-Taylor

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How We Can Optimize Our Minds As An "Average Joe"

10/20/2019

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No big science terms, or crazy diets or strategies to get your brain working better. Just simple things that we all can do for free everyday and that really work...

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If you are like me, you stumbled upon a few articles at whatever point in time, discussing optimizing your brain and how doing so was going to improve so many areas of your life.

How your relationships would improve, how you would find more happiness, how you would have more confidence, how you would remember more, and how you would be able to problem solve better.

While all these things are true, and much more, the articles were just kind of bland and boring because they were filled with a ton of science.

Sure, science is good to understand why something works but it gets to a point where there are just too many terms I don't know, and have to look up, that it feels like I'm doing a research paper, not actually learning what I want to learn.

I just wanted to know what worked so that I could try it out for myself, and I wanted a solid place to start that didn't involve going to buy 100 different vitamins or some fancy equipment.

This is going to be where you can start, no crazy science terms, no crazy strategies, just simple and effective ways to start changing the way you think.
I almost forgot! If you are new to the blog, thanks for stopping by! With MMNTM (mo-men-tum) my goal is to help you level up your mind and mindset with effective "workouts." Much like you would train your body, this is the gym for your mindset, everything from your happiness and mental clarity to mental discipline and productivity. These are the things that have helped me the most and I love sharing them with you daily on yourmmntm.com/blog so be sure to stop out daily!

Now let's get back to what you started reading for.

Here Is What You Are About to Learn

  1. Why Many People Get "Scared Away" From Optimizing Their Brain
  2. What Optimizing Your Brain Can Do For Your Life
  3. Change Your Mindset, Change Your Life
  4. Easy Habits That Really Work Is The Place to Start
  5. 5 Things You Can Actually Start Adding to Your Day​

Why Many People Get "Scared Away" From Optimizing
Their Brain

For lack of a better term...
They read a handful of articles and then come to the conclusion that they are "not smart enough" to do this and never take that first step.

This is because a lot of articles throw science terms at us like we have been studying it for the past three years and with a lot of people, this is their first time learning about the subject as the industry is relatively new in terms of social acceptance.

What worse way to introduce someone to the industry of brain optimization and mental growth than to throw a ton of science at them and make them feel stupid.

There is a gap here that needs to be bridged, because when we do this, there is no way anyone goes onto take their first steps towards better thinking as they are simply just too overwhelmed.

Instead, we need to have those simple and effective first steps so you can see that these things actually do work and you actually can improve your mood and thinking, it doesn't have to be like "how it always has been."

​What Optimizing Your Brain Can Do For Your Life

It will literally help every aspect of your life.
Maybe your lack of confidence has been holding you back from speaking to that person you are attracted to, so you never get the opportunity to get to know them

Maybe you have been exposed to a lot of negativity in your day to day life through social media, so you have a negative lens on the world and never see the opportunities in front of you.

Maybe this negativity holds you back from taking action on what you care about because you think that you'll never be able to make a difference.

Maybe you have the subconscious belief that you are not enough and this holds you back from taking any sort of action in life.

Maybe you have horrible brain fog and can't seem to stay focused on the task at hand for more than a minute or two. Maybe this leads to a poor memory and your grades at school and learning overall just suffers.

Whatever the case may be, with your mind being the foundation to all of your life, you are able to flip the script in these situations when you start to optimize your thinking.

​Change Your Mindset, Change Your Life

Optimizing your brain will do wonders for your mindset.
Your mindset is the foundation to every aspect of your life, just think about it, your thoughts are controlling the actions you take and how you look at each situation in life. If you just change the way you think you can change how you see and act in life and that can be a total game changer.

​When you start to build a better foundation in your life, you have a better footing to build off of (not surprisingly) and now you can start actually making real change.

You can start seeing the world from a different perspective and clear up your mind a little bit to actually see the opportunities that lie right in front of you.

Even if you don't change your life much, other than your mindset, you will start to see things from a new light that can compel you to make real change in your life, start taking action and change your outcomes.
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​Easy Habits That Really Work Is The Place to Start

Then you can explore what you want to learn more about as you start immersing yourself more.
Diving head first into a ton of crazy habits like a total diet revamp or blood work or just all the stuff you can hear about when it comes to "biohacking," as brain optimization is commonly called, is not the answer.

It just overwhelms us and then with so many options that make it seem like there is a high barrier to entry or that it will be expensive (such as some $80 a month pills and supplements), we end up taking no action.

Instead, I thought that maybe if I gave some great tips that are essentially free and easy to do, yet are still effective, then maybe you could see that this really does work.

Then from there, dive more into slowly adding other habits or doing other things that can optimize your brain.

You just need a place to start and a place that shows you this isn't some "hippie sh*t" that this actually works and you need to get on board if you want, what I like to call, an "unfair advantage" in life.

MMNTM Can Help You Simplify Mindset Training

For normal people looking for more than normal results in their life.
You Have To Start With Your Brain.

​That Changes Your Mindset, Your Mindset Changes Your Actions and Your Actions Change Your Results.


Yes, it can work in any area of your life... you name it and this will help. From quality of work to family life to better relationships and even better grades in school.

My goal with MMNTM is to give you this place to start that I have been talking about, with low barriers to entry and actions that are simple to start implementing, so that you can see that this stuff really works.

And what better way to do so that than through education and then what I consider to be "mental workouts," which are going to be workout programs for your mind, much like taking your mind to the gym, that are easy to do and don't take up too much of your day.

Training your mind has one of the best ROIs in terms of your time investment as you will start to think and feel 10x better.

All I ask is for you to bring one friend to the blog tomorrow (yourmmntm.com/blog) if you are finding this valuable.

​And now let's get to the good stuff.

​Take A Simple Walk

The amount of mental clarity, ideas and just happiness that I have gotten from just taking a simple walk everyday is insane.

Try listening to a podcast such as the Tim Ferriss Show, Show Story Long or The School of Greatness and you can learn at the same time as you are walking, it's a win-win.

When. you get outside and increase the UV rays you are getting, combined with movement and just fresh air, your mind is going to start freeing up all those thoughts you have been hoarding and just start living in the moment.

This is going to be especially effective if you are trapped in an office all day and never really get outside as you go from your car to the office, back to your car and then into your house.

This is a real game changer if you are really just looking to add one thing to your day.

Try a 45 minute walk, ideally in the morning or at sunset so that you aren't taking up important hours during the middle of the day. I like to walk in the morning as it sets the tone for the rest of my day.

​Drink More Water

Your brain is made up of almost 75% water, so how do you expect it to function properly if you are just drinking coffee and flavored drinks all day?

Try adding a simple gallon of water to your day, it seems too simple so a lot of you are going to skip it, don't be that guy.

​Clean Up Your Diet

There is no way you can avoid brain fog when all you are feeding yourself is sugar, carbs and then drinking a ton on the weekend (as many of us that are still in college do).

And you may get to the point where you don't realize that you are not thinking properly because you are just so used to feeling and thinking how you currently are.

That is the problem with "brain fog," many people don't even realize they have it because "this is how it always has been."

Cut as much sugar and unneeded fast acting carbs, that spike your blood sugar levels, out of your diet as much as you can and focus on protein and slow burning carbs. Also try to cut alcohol out completely because it just isn't worth the days of slowed thinking after just one night out.

​Journal Twice Per Day

Once in the morning, once at night.

Just get all your thoughts and ideas out so that you don't have them taking up space in your mind when you don't need them to be.

Also focus on writing down what you are grateful for everyday, and why, and then at night write about what you are glad you experienced that day.

This will start to get rid of negative thinking in your life and just make you feel better overall throughout the day and with whatever you end up experiencing.

Meditate (No It Isn't Hippie Sh*t)

Long gone are the days where meditation is just for some hippies who want to go sit on a rock or by the oceans going "ummmmmmmmmm, ummmmmmmmmm."

Meditation has become almost mainstream now as many of the top CEOs and people across all walks of life are doing it.

For the simple fact that it actually works to help you live more in the present and clear your mind.

Maybe you have tried meditation before and just couldn't get yourself to focus, and that was the case for myself as well. I found that a simple guided meditation (which are free on YouTube) are a great place to start as they guide you through your thinking rather than just leaving you to your own thoughts.

Try a 10-15 minutes meditation in the morning and then at night as well!

BONUS: A Few Other Things You Should Try

Take a cold shower, it is free and one of the most mentally challenging things you will do each day. You focus on nothing but the cold water and it really helps clear your mind and get you more comfortable doing uncomfortable things.

Just add a few minutes of cold water at the end of your warm shower to start!

Next, get rid of negative influences in your life, you might even free up some more time for yourself as well.

Whether we realize it or not, a lot of the content we are consuming on a daily basis, especially the news, is full of negativity because that is what people react to and when people react, they can get more views for their ads.

Especially on social media, it is usually a ton of people just complaining or even just you looking at other people's lives and comparing it to your own and then feeling bad about yourself.

Reduce these negative influences in your day to day and start switching them out with some podcasts in topics that you are interested in.

This is a huge game changer as it can really change the way you look at the world. It can help remove that negative lens you are possibly looking through at the moment.
Wow, just like that another day on the blog is in the books! Thanks for all the support and if you enjoyed this or learned anything I just ask one thing: bring a friend back tomorrow! Time to make personal development more "normal" because it is at the foundation of every area of our lives. Stop back with a friend tomorrow-- yourmmntm.com/blog

Now be sure to actually put what you learned to use, don't just read about it and make yourself feel like you are taking action, actually take action!

-Taylor

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Need That Confidence Boost? Here's Today's Mind "Hack" For You

10/17/2019

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Self confidence is an "unfair advantage" in your life, here's how to increase your confidence...

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I have struggled with confidence for literally as long as I could remember.

School presentations might have been the death of me.

Forget trying to date anyone as I just never had the self-confidence that I was good enough, there was always someone better.

Especially in business or just hobbies in general, I could never find that confidence to step outside of my comfort zone and my results suffered drastically.

I always just thought that I was playing a losing game, that is until I started to read more about my mind. I'm not sure what book flipped the switch, maybe it was the Third Circle Theory, maybe it was How to Win Friends and Influence People or maybe it was listening to podcasts such as Impact Theory, Short Story Long and The MFCEO Project...

Whatever it was that flipped the switch into realizing that I really could change my confidence and mindset, I am forever grateful.

I have realized all of the powerful things that confidence can do in my life and figured out how to actually start bringing in new opportunities in life thanks to my confidence.

Plus, I have made stepping out of my comfort zone a huge part of my life as I am constantly visiting new countries to see how I can grow and develop in a culture that is so much different than my own.

Hopefully I can help you flip that switch as well and get started changing your outcomes in terms of relationships, business and just life in general.

Confidence is the key and this is a great way to build it, in one simple "hack."
I almost forgot! If you are new to the blog, thanks for stopping by! With MMNTM (mo-men-tum) my goal is to help you level up your mind and mindset with effective "workouts." Much like you would train your body, this is the gym for your mindset, everything from your happiness and mental clarity to mental discipline and productivity. These are the things that have helped me the most and I love sharing them with you daily on yourmmntm.com/blog so be sure to stop out daily!

Now let's get back to what you started reading for

A Quick Overview

  1. ​The Misconception With Confidence
  2. Why You Might Be Reading This Article
  3. What Confidence Can Add to Your Life
  4. Your Mindset With/ Without Self Confidence
  5. Start HELPING Others, It Does Wonder's For Your Confidence​

​The Misconception With Confidence

People get confidence confused with ego...
Right off the bat here, a lot of us have negative perceptions of what we believe confidence to be.

We see those guys that think they are all that, walking around our college campuses or at work you see the cocky motherf**ker that thinks he knows everything.

What do you think then?

"I'm glad I'm not that guy" and if you are seeing those acts as acts of confidence rather than acts based around their EGO, then you start to harness a negative perception on what it means to be confident.

Confidence is being comfortable in your skin and knowing what you know based on previous situations, while always being ready to learn.

It is being able to carry yourself in situations where you aren't as comfortable but you have faith in yourself that you can endure.

Wanna know what confidence is not?

It is not that cocky, ego filled person that thinks the world revolves around them. Sure, they might have confidence, but that is not the sole definition of confidence.

​Why You Might Be Reading This Article

We all struggle with this at some point or another, confidence needs to constantly be worked on.
Maybe you stumbled upon this article on Medium or Reddit, but most likely you have been searching for a while now on how to build that confidence but just haven't found the right solution yet.

Even if you did happen to find this on Medium or Reddit, something compelled you to click on this article.

Something compelled us all to click on this article, me as well back in the days of high school when my confidence was less than ideal. And something compelled me again to work on it recently and write this article. It is a constant process.

​Maybe you just can't find the confidence to talk to that girl you have been wanting to ask out.

Or maybe you just can't find the confidence to step outside of your comnfort zone.

Or to work on something you are passionate about.

Good thing you found this article, this is going to be ONE GREAT PIECE OF ADVICE that can help you change your mindset and increase that confidence. 

Don't worry, you won't get bogged down with a million options on how to increase confidence like some articles do, I am giving you ONE actionable choice, take advantage of it!
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​What Confidence Can Add to Your Life

A hell of a lot more than you think.
Confidence is more than just a one time thing that a lot of us think it is. It is more than just that one moment we need it to ask that person on a date or the one time we need it for a presentation.

Confidence is a way that you carry yourself and a mindset that can bring you to levels that you never though possible.

You can start be to more comfortable in your own skin, being who you are. Confidence doesn't mean having to act like someone you aren't, it can help you amplify who you actually are.

It helps you carry yourself into conversations and uncomfortable situations that you might not be used to and helps you learn or even meet new people.

It helps you take actions that you previously weren't taking.

When you start to take these actions, you start attracting opportunities that you never would have previously, such as business opportunities or just opportunities to meet people.

You never know when the person you are meeting could end up being your significant other, your best friend, or someone that changes you life!

The most important thing: Increasing your confidence will help you realize that you ARE ENOUGH.

No longer is success or good relationships "for other people." You will start to realize you can have all these things as well, there is nothing special about these other people.

Realizing I was enough was huge for me because I was subconsciously holding myself back. Even though I was doing the work, I was always doing not enough work or just slacking because deep down I always though these things were for other people only, that is NOT THE CASE AT ALL.

​Your Mindset With/ Without Self Confidence

A world of difference once you start working on it.
Imagine instead of hiding in the corner or avoiding walking by that person you are attracted to, you can walk by them, make eye contact and make a conversation.

Imagine instead of going straight to your desk at work, you can start to interact with more people. Maybe that leads to you getting new projects to work on or others starting to see your strengths and asking for your help with problems, showing you are valuable to the company.

Imagine taking that first step in starting your business because you realize that you are enough and that you actually can reach those goals. Instead of just reading and learning, avoiding taking those first steps because you don't want to fail.

Imagine being able to clearly articulate your thoughts and goals, without getting nervous about what others are thinking or stumbling through your sentences.

Confidence plays a part in almost every area of your life, you owe it to yourself to work on it for once.
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​Start HELPING Others, It Does Wonder's For Your
Confidence

And why this works...
And you wanted to know what this "hack" was for your confidence, here it is:

Help others solve their problems, be there for them, help them benefit their lives in one way or another. It doesn't matter if you know them or not or if you are best friends with them or not, just give value and your confidence will be the payment to you.

It seems like a lot of people are out here trying to get someone from everyone and constantly getting shut down because you haven't done anything for them. No wonder we are facing major confidence problems, when all we are trying to do is ask for things and then never getting them, there's no better way to constantly lose confidence.

Instead, what if you started to help others expecting nothing in return? To get to see the powerful relationships you create, the people you can help and prove ton yourself that you are enough because you just benefitted this persons life in a positive way.

If you do it once, you can do it twice, then three times and it will be exponential from there.

What does this look like in your life?
  • Helping that friend that you have been constantly blowing off because you are too "busy."
  • Maybe you run a business, instead of constantly trying to sell, maybe take some time each day to focus on a problem your target market has and help them solve it.
  • Maybe your significant other has something they are working on that you could help with.
  • Maybe you could cook dinner to take some stress off of your roommates or boyfriend/ girlfriend.

There are literally a million ways to help people, find what was you can implement into your life.
Wow, just like that another day on the blog is in the books! Thanks for all the support and if you enjoyed this or learned anything I just ask one thing: bring a friend back tomorrow! Time to make personal development more "normal" because it is at the foundation of every area of our lives. Stop back with a friend tomorrow-- yourmmntm.com/blog

Now be sure to actually put what you learned to use, don't just read about it and make yourself feel like you are taking action, actually take action!

-Taylor

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Your Business Isn't Growing and It's Not Because You Don't Know the "Secret Strategy." This is Why.

10/14/2019

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Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life.

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Image: Avitus Group
Everyone likes the idea of owning a business or working for themselves because of all the "free time" they will get and the ability to be their own boss.

Yet, they try to start something and it never ends up going anywhere even though it seems like they are "working" 24/7.

They are reading the books they thinkn they "need" to read, getting mentors and "taking action," yet they never seem to actually get the ball rolling.

Then, they discount starting a business and explain to others, that they told about their business, how it "just wasn't for them."

Is that really the case though?

This might have been the answer to their solution the whole time, but they were too "busy" to realize it.
Crap, I almost forgot! If you are new to the blog, thanks for stopping by! With MMNTM (mo-men-tum) my goal is to help you level up your mind and mindset with effective "workouts." Much like you would train your body, this is the gym for your mindset, everything from your happiness and mental clarity to mental discipline and productivity. These are the things that have helped me the most and I love sharing them with you daily on yourmmntm.com/blog so be sure to stop out daily!

Now let's get back to what you started reading for.

A Glimpse At What You're About to Learn

  1. ​"A Day in The Life of TOO MANY PEOPLE"
  2. What You Might Be Doing Too Much of
  3. Why Your Mind Might Be The Cause of This
  4. What You Need to Focus on Instead
  5. First Step: Take Control of Your Morning
  6. A Mental "Workout" for Doing MORE​

" A Day in the Life of TOO MANY PEOPLE"

They wake up early so that they can spend two hours doing their morning routine and then they go to the gym.

After the gym they maybe get a few hours of work done before heading to lunch and running some errands.

After that, back to work for another handful of hours before they decide that they need to read. A lot of people end up reading for hours, as it makes them feel like they are productive, and then maybe get back to work or maybe they don't.

They repeat this for years at a time and wonder why they never see any sort of results in their business.

They will tell you all about all the books and articles they are reading during the day, all the podcasts they are listening to on their walks and the gym and then act like that is how they are going to get closer to their goals.

Learning is EXTREMELY IMPORTANT, but there gets to be a point where it starts to interfere with your action because it makes you think that you are busy and productive, when in reality you are going nowhere fast.

Feeling "busy" and actually being productive are two different things that people never take the time to figure out, and it has a large part to do with the foundation of the mind that they have created over the years.
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Image: Her Campus

​What You Might Be Doing Too Much of

And what you aren't doing enough of...
If you aren't seeing the results that you are looking for in business, you might be spending too much time "acting busy" and "playing business" and not enough time taking real action.

When you spend all your time trying to find the right habits, trying to learn as much as you can and then going to Starbucks and sitting with your MacBook while doing no work in order to look important, you are doing it all wrong.

All these things, except the Starbucks part, are very important but not as important as actually taking action. Why? Because if you aren't taking action, you are not getting any closer to your goals, it doesn't matter if you feel like your are or not, you aren't.

Utilize podcasts while you are at the gym and make sure you are reading and learning something every day. But don't let it get to the point where that is all you are doing, this is called "playing business."

These are the people that like the idea of starting a business, tell everyone about it and then never actually take real action to get there, they just make it look like they are.

Ask yourself if this is really what you want.

Why Your Mind Might Be The Cause of This

Our mind gravitates towards what is easy, which is not taking action for a lot of us.
If you have been around the blog long enough, you know that I like to say that your mind and mindset is at the foundation to everything in your life, because it holds true EVERY time.

​How does it hold true in taking action in your business though? That seems like it is either something we are doing or something we aren't doing.

Well, that is true but if we dive even deeper, we can see that it comes from what we have conditioned our minds to think like.

Most people have always been looking for the easy way to do things and after years of doing this, you start to train your mind to see the easy things as things to gravitate towards and the "hard things" in life as things to avoid at all costs.

Even if this isn't your intention, if you have been taking the easy route in school and cheating on everything, not really learning, or at the gym, just lifting the same weights and not really challenging yourself, this will translate to your business as well.

Why wouldn't it?

Your mind is going to naturally look for the easiest thing to do, that still makes you feel like you are "productive" and that is going to be learning about business.

So, you spend countless hours buying courses, reading and listening to podcasts like it is your full time job, yet you never seem to get anywhere.


I'd say that it is time to start changing the way you think so that you can change your life.

​What You Need to Focus on Instead

More doing, less staying "busy."
It's probably obvious by now, but if you like a good ol' step by step, the next step in your life is going to be start training your mind to do the hard things, not avoid them at all costs.

This doesn't mean that you are going to stop learning, because that is not good either, you are just going to prioritize your days differently.

If you aren't taking any real action because you are too busy staying busy, you likely aren't prioritizing your days.

You are just doing things when you feel like it and honestly when do you ever feel like doing something hard? Never, and that is why those things almost never get done.

I am going to give you a little mind workout to show you how to train yourself to start doing the hard things, but first let me explain the power of taking control of your morning.
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Image: Inspire Your Success

​First Step: Take Control of Your Morning

Start the day off in control, get the momentum rolling.
So, what does it matter if we do something in the morning or in the afternoon, as long as it gets done?

Yeah, that is what you have been telling yourself, most likely, and how has that worked out so far? Not ideal if you are reading this.

After my morning routine, I always find it most beneficial to get the hardest things done during the day, for two reasons.

First, when you do something in the morning, you make sure that they get done and not pushed off until "tomorrow" everyday, like we usually do with anything hard that we don't feel like doing.

This also sets the tone for the rest of the day, giving you momentum as well as clearing your mind so that you don't have this hard thing gloaming over you that has to get done all day.

I'd say that is a win-win, and I believe most people would agree with me.

Start taking back control of your morning, yes that is likely going to mean waking up earlier but it is going to be 100% worth it.

​A Mental "Workout" for Doing MORE

Almost every day I will bring you these "workouts" at the end of the articles to actually help you take action and change your mindset.

Why?

Because that is one of the major things I see missing in personal development, the actionable advice. Everyone has ideas and theories that are "up in the clouds," yet they never come down to Earth and give us some real ways to change.

And that is what MMNTM is for, to help you actually change in a unique and fun way, it's like taking your mind to the gym every day at yourmmntm.com/blog

So, these are going to be workouts specifically to train your mind to do the things that are hard and not just what is easy and comfortable to do, it is going to be hard for a reason, as any workout should be.

Exercise #1: Take a Cold Shower
Duration: 5 minutes
Notes: Possibly the hardest thing that you will do all day, mentally and physically.

Exercise #2: Make Your Bed
Notes: I know it seems pointless and you don't want to because nobody will see it, but that is exactly why you are doing these exercises.

Exercise #3: Sprint Intervals
Reps: 1x per day
Duration: 20 seconds on, 10 seconds off, as long as you can.
Notes: This makes sure you can't just say you went on a run, yet never challenged yourself, this will make the run anything but easy.

Exercise #4: 1 Day Fast
Duration: All day
Notes: Yes, fast as in "not eating." It's hard, you will think about food all day, but it is challenging and has many other benefits such as increased focus and mental clarity as well as helping to reduce inflammation in the body.
Wow, just like that another day on the blog is in the books! Thanks for all the support and if you enjoyed this or learned anything I just ask one thing: bring a friend back tomorrow! Time to make personal development more "normal" because it is at the foundation of every area of our lives. Stop back with a friend tomorrow-- yourmmntm.com/blog

Now be sure to actually put what you learned to use, don't just read about it and make yourself feel like you are taking action, actually take action!

-Taylor

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