Naturally, happiness is a life long journey, which makes it pretty hard. This is what is easier, if that is what you are looking for?
So many people are out here searching for happiness which requires a lot of hard work that many people just aren't willing to do.
Well, do you want to know what is easier than finding happiness and doesn't require you to put in as much hard work? Complaining.
And do you know where that gets you? Not very f**king far.
Even though everyone says they want to be more happy, if you look at their actions, it seems like that is not the case at all.
If you are currently holding onto this toxic habit, I would highly suggest that you read this so I can show you why doing what is easier than finding real happiness is not the route you want to take in life.
I almost forgot! If you are new to the blog, thanks for stopping by! With MMNTM (mo-men-tum) my goal is to help you level up your mind and mindset with effective "workouts." Much like you would train your body, this is the gym for your mindset, everything from your happiness and mental clarity to mental discipline and productivity. These are the things that have helped me the most and I love sharing them with you daily on yourmmntm.com/blog so be sure to stop out daily!
Now let's get back to what you started reading for.
A Quick Glimpse At What to Expect
This is Why It Seems Like Nobody is Happy
Complaining is just easier than trying to doing things that make you happy...
Yes, you read that right and no, I am not saying that you should just start complaining.
When did I ever say that we should do what is easier? Not once have I said that.
Why does it seem like everyone is unhappy? Because a lot of people actually are unhappy for the simple reason that they are doing what is easy.
Our minds gravitate towards what is easy, constantly searching for new ways to make our lives a little easier and that is probably why you started reading this article.
The thing about doing what is easy though is you never make any real progress because you are not doing any real work or challenging yourself.
Happiness comes from discipline and enjoying the progress of excelling towards your goals and you can't do that when you are avoiding all real work that will move you closer to your goals.
Take this example, say you want to start a business and you read books all day, everyday. It might seem like you are making progress and getting things done but in reality you have just done what is easy and doesn't require any challenge.
Then guess what? You are still unhappy because you are making no progress and aren't anywhere closer to your goals.
What Happens If You Let Complaining Distract You From Your Happiness?
Nothing good, you really shouldn't let this happen.
Why do we really complain all the time though, even if we don't want to? Because that is what is easiest for our brain to think about and if you forgot already, our brains gravitate towards the easier thoughts.
It is so easy to just complain about a situation because then you don't have to think about a solution to the problem, you can just sit there feeling bad about the situation and that is super easy to do. That is why you see so many people complaining, they just don't want to face what is hard.
Plus, when everyone else is complaining it just makes it easier for us to complain because then we won't be met with any resistance as we all will have the same thoughts. You won't have to defend a position or argue with anyone over why you don't think something is "bad."
It is very easy to see why we complain and why we let this get in the way of our happiness, especially now a days when everyone is searching for a life of ease and comfort.
Everyone is looking forward to just retiring so they don't have to do sh*t. Well guess what? You can only have so many beers on the beach before you get bored and start turning into a grumpy old man because you thought that you were going to enjoy doing nothing.
The path in life is always towards the hard things, start learning that now because it will never change. Your happiness will thank you later.
The First Step to Start Finding More Happiness
Not complaining and being negative sounds like a good place to start, doesn't it?
Well, instead of just jumping right into doing a ton of hard sh*t everyday, how about we take some time to "detox" your mind first and foremost, so then you have ample room to learn and implement these new ways of thinking.
What exactly does that mean?
Taking away the complaining and negative thoughts in our lives is a great way to start.
For the next week just try and be a little more self aware and realize when you really want to complain about something, even if it is just in your mind and not aloud.
Stop and change that thinking to why you are grateful that you get to be doing that thing. It is going to make you realize how much you are actually complaining during your day and when you can get rid of this it actually improves your day a ton.
In terms of getting rid of your negative thoughts, we have to look at what we are consuming.
A lot of social media as well as the news is full of negative articles, pictures and captions because that is what gets attention. Go through your social media and look at all the accounts you follow, are they uplifting or are they just complaining about a ton of issues in the world? I would guess the latter.
While it is good to know about what is going on in the world and major issues, scrolling by pictures and captions of these issues all day really starts to give you a negative lens to look at the world through.
You Need to Start Doing What is HARDER
You really do this time, not just reading another post and going back to your old ways.
Okay, now that we have laid the foundation and cleared up some space in the mind, it his time to focus on doing things that are harder.
We all know the things that we avoid everyday because they are "too hard" and we know that we can push those things off until tomorrow.
Well, it is time to stop pushing those things off and getting them done.
The amount of decisions we come across on a day to day basis is actually insane, we probably make thousands of decisions each day and this is a thousand opportunities to start training your mind to do what is harder rather than avoiding it.
Every time a choice comes up, usually the one we know we need to make is the harder one, actually it almost always is. But how often are you making that choice?
Are you waking up early when that alarm goes off to take a walk when that is the last thing you want to do?
Are you going to the gym on the way home from a long day at work?
Are you actually taking steps towards building a side project rather than just reading countless books on it?
Are you actually making moves and taking actions towards your happiness and not just reading about it to feel "good" for a little bit?
Make the harder choice, it is usually the one you know is "right."
Why You Need to Start Doing the Harder Things in Life
Your happiness is relying on you to take some real action.
When you don't take any action towards your goals, you don't really have any stress because you will never fail. Maybe that isn't the key top happiness though?
Have you ever thought about the process to get to where you are going? That is where the happiness lies, not in the end results.
That is why when so many people reach their salary goal or get that dream job, they still aren't happy because they put all of that emphasis on the end result and never actually enjoyed the journey to get there.
Start doing the harder things day in and day out and you will immerse yourself in the journey to reach those goals. You will have your feet on the ground and start seeing incremental progress each day towards a larger vision, rather than just being stressed and unhappy because you are not at where you want to be yet.
Doing what is hard builds discipline and discipline is required to start to enjoy this process towards our goals, that is where the happiness lies.
What Increasing Your Happiness Can Add to Your Life
In case you were debating just reading this article and going back to complaining.
What exactly are you missing out on when you keep pushing yopur personal happiness to the back burner each day, saying you will "get to it later?"
Well you are missing out on a lot of opportunities in life when you are dragging around and complaining all day.
First and foremost, you are missing the ability to make strong friendships, not just friendships based around both of you complaining (which is a lot of people's friends these days).
Human connection has been proven, through many studies, to be the thing that distinguishes who is happy from who is unhappy. Just take this study from Psychology Today >>
If you go around complaining and being negative, you are not going to attract anyone into your life. When you flip the script though and get rid of all the complaining, people are going to be more likely to interact with you, leading to more relationships.
Also, you are going to be missing opportunities to do fulfilling work because you are too busy complaining and never actually take any real action.
Our work days are a majority of our life, so why would you waste them not taking the opportunity to do work that you actually care about, even if it is just on the side?
When you add discipline to your life as you are increasing your happiness, you are also going to increase your results and progress.
As you are doing more, you are naturally going to get further along the path to wherever you are going.
These results help you become more disciplined and start helping you do more as you see that it is "working" and this leads to more happiness. This is the type of feedback loop you want to be in, not one full of complaining, negative thinking and zero action.
Today's Mind "Workout"
Almost every day I will bring you these "workouts" at the end of the articles to actually help you take action and change your mindset.
Because that is one of the major things I see missing in personal development, the actionable advice. Everyone has ideas and theories that are "up in the clouds," yet they never come down to Earth and give us some real ways to change.
And that is what MMNTM is for, to help you actually change in a unique and fun way, it's like taking your mind to the gym every day at yourmmntm.com/blog
Exercise #1: Take a Cold Shower
Duration: 3-5 Minutes
Notes: It is going to suck every day and that is why we do it!
Exercise #2: Wake Up Earlier
Duration: 1 hour earlier than normal
Notes: Do this even if you don't have to and use the time to go to the gym, take a walk, mediatate or get some work done.
Exercise #3: Get Active Twice A Day
Duration: 45 Minutes Each
Notes: Go to the gym once a day and take a walk once a day (or do something outside). Good thing you have extra time now because you are waking up earlier!
Exercise #4: No Sugar
Duartion: All week
Notes: This will be much harder for some than it will be for others.
Andddd just like that another day on the blog is in the books! Thanks for all the support and if you enjoyed this or learned anything I just ask one thing: bring a friend back tomorrow! Time to make personal development more "normal" because it is at the foundation of every area of our lives. Stop back with a friend tomorrow-- yourmmntm.com/blog
Now be sure to actually put what you learned to use, don't just read about it and make yourself feel like you are taking action, actually take action!
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