And how it can change your's as well.... It has made the biggest impact in my life these past few months/years and that is why I had to go deep on you guys and share this with you. With the goal of helping you do the same!
So, there I was, feeling down as ever after just ending a relationship with someone who I thought was "the one" and at the same time seeing lack luster results in my business. This had happened before, almost same situation with the same poor business results.
I was down, sad, sleeping most of my day away because I couldn't stand the thought of losing that person who I cared the most about. I felt played, simple as that and she didn't really care.
This feeling translated into my business and health as well, my health was on the decline, I wasn't working out everyday and my business was taking second to my sadness day in and day out.
This time was different though, last time I tried to blame them and everyone around me for what had happened. But this was the second time, same situation so after weeks of just nothing but depression I came to the conclusion that maybe it was me and my mindset that was causing this to happen..
So I started to dig deep, read books and just reflect on my experiences and beliefs to see what I could find and wow did it change my life...
What I Found...
After what felt like forever reflecting on my actions in and around my relationship, business and just life in general. Plus re-reading some of my favorite personal development books such as Secrets of the Millionaire Mind and The 10x Rule.. which I highly recommend doing becasue each time you reread a book you get a new piece of information or insight that you previously missed.
After doing this was when I started to get the insight on what was missing in my life... The main reason I found was that I wasn't feeling worthy of what I had and was essentially pushing results in business and love in my life, away from me.
Less on the side of relationships but more on the side of business and health, I found that when my love life fell apart I gave up all consistency, good habits and momentum that I had created... and I needed to get that back as it is much easier to find results when you have momentum on your side rather than trying to fight it.
So this is exactly what I set out to accomplish...
I set out to figure out why I wasn't feeling worthy and how to start feeling like i deserved the things that were coming into my life so that I could keep them rather then get attached and have them leave.
I also set out to regain the lost habits and consistency I had before as that is how you create success, not through one random strike of luck but through many years of habits. Side not-- stop looking for that get rich quick thing or the one thing you are missing for your success because this is it, hard work, habit and consistency;)
One of these things was easier to do than the other, and that was create the habits and regain the consistency. I just took on this by planning out each day, hour by hour, the night before and then setting my alarm to get up early and start working.
I also hid my phone so that I wasn't distracted, unless I was working on my phone I didn't have it near me.
The next part though, creating the feeling or worth and developing those mindsets deep down is much easier said than done...
Sure you can say you are worthy or you believe something but if your mindset deep down is still opposite then you won't see any more results.
You really have to go back in your past and figure out why you are thinking this way and how to avoid that thinking and reshape your mindset.
Where your parents forming your mindsets around worth by saying success wasn't for it it was or someone else. or what was creating this mindset that I had.
Once I figured this out it was uphill from thee. But a slow ascent as that the mindset was still in the back of my mind and presenting itself whenever it saw the opportunity.
But after getting this mindset back and habits created, I was up and rolling again, starting to create momentum towards my success. And that is all I can ask for, stringer than before I fell and more wise for next time it happens. Because setbacks and loss and unavoidable in life as I have found out but it was all in the way I bounced back that gave me my momentum back!
I hope you guys could take away some lessons and ideas from this story, personal development meas a ton to me and I hope you feel the same way! Thanks!