It might be the exact same reason you aren't keeping habits as well...
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Here's the Backstory...
Sure, just like many of you I was reading countless personal development books and reading a million articles on changing my day to day habits because I wasn't where I wanted to be in life.
I knew I needed to course correct, yet every time I would read these books or articles, nothing would really change.
I thought that this was just not the right book, so I would move onto the next one, and the next one, and the next one.
Even when I actually started to implement these habits into my life, they would work well for a week and then I would slowly fall back into my old ways.
And that was if I actually implemented them in my life, a lot of the time I just read about them to make myself feel good.
Why This Turned Into A Major Problem
This turned in to a problem when I was reading and learning a lot so I felt good, but I was really not changing any area of my life.
My work was still the same and not accelerated in any way, shape or form. My fitness was about the same and I couldn't really see any major changes there and my happiness was at the same level as well.
Despite having the resources available, I was not able to effectively add habits into or keep them in my life.
I was going through the motions for months on end for honestly no reason at all other than I was convincing myself that the barrier to entry was so high, or I kept pushing off starting the habit until "tomorrow" and saying this everyday turned into never starting.
It was single handedly slowing down the results I was getting in all areas of my life.
Where We Go Wrong Trying to Form Habits
For me, I assumed that when I wanted to form a new habit, I had to carve out a chunk of my day to focus on this habit.
I though that it was going to take hours out of my day and that I just didn't have that kind of time to dedicate in my already busy college days.
There simply isn't enough time in the day.
We only have a certain amount of time in each day, in reality building habits doesn't require you to take hours upon hours out of your day, like many people may believe.
Instead, there is a way to add them to your day without spending too much extra time doing so.
Of course, this is all situational, for example, if you want to add the habit of going to the gym every day or going on a walk in the morning, obviously you are going to have to carve out some time in the day for that.
Time to Fix This Issue
For every other "small" habit we want to add though, there definitely is a way to start adding these habits to our lives without carving out a ton of time from our day.
It can't get much better than this because obviously the habits we have are not ideal if we aren't heading in the direction of our goals, so we NEED to change them.,
Yes, for a lot of us this is a "need to" and not a "want to" because otherwise we are never going to fulfill those goals that we have laid out for ourselves.
"How exactly can I get started now?"
By attaching these new habits to things you are already doing on a day to day basis.
That way we are not taking a ton of extra time during our days to add habits and that we can just change how we are doing things compared to totally changing what we are doing on a daily basis.
Small changes are the best place to start, if we try to jump right into totally flipping our lives inside out, we are likely going to get burnt out.
I want to give you the best chances to keep these habits for the long run so you can actually see them start to transform your life and this is how I believe the best way to do so is.
Why This Can Work For You When You Have Been Struggling to Build Habits
Just think about it...
You want to add ten new things in to your life so you start to do so, on top of the other things that you likely have to be doing on a daily basis, such as going to work and doing some errands, and you quickly run out of hours in the day.
Instead, you can start to change up how you are doing things on a daily basis and then carve out just a little time to focus on your habits throughout the day.
That way you aren't spending all off your time focused on your habits because that kind of ruins the point of adding new habits.
We want to add new habits so that we get closer to our goals and if we spend all of our time on building those new habits, we are never going to have time to actually work towards your goals.
This was another problem for me early on, I was so focused on developing my mindset so I could have more confidence to build new relationships, try new things and have a better mindset to attack my goals, that my whole day was structured around devleoping a new mindset and I really had no time to work towards any goals.
Always be self aware while changing any aspect of your life so that you don't get in this trap of feeling good about changing a smaller aspect and never leaving time to change what you actually set out to change.
Put This Into Action In Your Own Life
You might be sitting there pondering about how to add this into your own life. Ponder no more because I will give you some great examples that will help everyone add some new habits.
Ultimately though, we all have different habits we want to add and do different things on a daily basis, so use these as examples and then figure out how to add your habits to what you are already doing each day.
Maybe you want to be more mindful or present in your life. Instead of taking the time to go on a walk without your phone for 45 minutes and meditate for another 20-30 minutes, try taking your commute to school or work without music or technology, live in the present.
Maybe you want to add more physical exercise to your day. Try going to the gym during your lunch break at work or even before you leave school. Don't wait until later, after you get home and wind down for the day, to decide to go to the gym.
Maybe you want to eat healthier, instead of buying junk at the grocery store, just buy what you know you will eat for meals during the week and eliminate snacks all together. Or pack your meals for work or school so that you aren't tempted to stop on the way home because you are so hungry, you will have a meal right with you.
Or maybe you are trying to get more work or homework done during the day. Instead of having your phone near you, turn it off and put it in a different room (or even lock it in your car). I will almost bet that you will get the same amount of work done in that time without your phone than you would have gotten done with your phone if you would have added another few hours to your work day.
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