This Applies to All Areas of Life, You Are Doing Yourself A Disservice if You Don't Read This...
I have been hard on the happiness grind lately so what not make a blog so that you can see the other side of the spectrum as well?
You have to be able to see both sides in every situation in life, your happiness being no different. So that is exactly what I am going to help you do...
I want to show you one of the biggest things I have experienced as well as watched others go through in terms of making yourself unhappy.
This is almost a without fail, if you do this you are most likely going to end up unhappy and/or burnt out in the long run.
That doesn't sound too fun now does it? Unless unhappy is your thing I guess?
So, let me share what this "one thing" is...
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What You Do Wrong Setting Goals and Why This Relates to Happiness
Hint: It relates to happiness a lot.
Goals set the tone, or at lease should set the tone, for our day to day lives. They keep us on track to make sure we are headed towards what we value most, with clear checkpoints along the way.
While it is important to learn how to properly set goals using things like SMART goals, or whatever the h*ll they call it, that is not what this training is going to be about.
Rather I want to touch on the mindsets behind goals in terms of happiness and why people need to stop reserving happiness until after their goals are achieved.
What many people struggle with when they set goals is the way they are looking at when they will be happy based on those goals.
Here is how it usually goes: Someone sets a goal, you decide you are going to be happy after this goal is achieved and then you start taking action on the goal.
What is wrong with this though? Not much seems wrong with this to most people and that is the problem.
You notice how the phrase says "you will be happy AFTER you achieve this goal?"
That is the problem, saving your happiness until after you reach the goal. Rephrased, the problem here is that we are chasing an end result rather than finding happiness in the process of striving towards our goals.
Long term happiness comes when you love the process of working towards those goals you have rather than waiting until the goal is achieved to feel happiness, because what if you never reach your goals?
Our whole days are made up of goals in fitness, relationships, money, work and much more, so if you are happy during the process of every one of your goals you will be happy a majority of the day.
Compare that to if you only get happiness from achieving the goals, you will be unhappy a majority of the days and then only get a glimpse of happiness when one of those goals is achieved every so often.
Why Should You Not Chase End Results
One of the ways you can almost for sure not reach that end result.
What does it matter if you chase end results or not, will not make that big of a deal?
Actually, yes it will make that big of a deal.
When you focus solely on an end result, whether that be in fitness, work, relationships, etc., you are most likely not going to put the work in because you just like the idea of the end result, or you are going to get burnt out because all you do is think about the results while you dread every second of the work.
If you are not loving the day in and day out of reaching your goals, the showing up every day because you are getting closer each and every day, then you are going to burn out.
You can only force yourself to do work that you dread doing for so long.
Here's a couple great examples...
Just imagine you are in a relationship and you guys set a goal of going out to eat less so that you can save for a house. Butttt, going out to eat was one of your favorite things to do so you dread every single time you have to cook at home. Eventually, you are just going to get burnt out and start eating out again because you gave yourselves no reason to love the process of cooking at home.
Maybe you take up cooking at home as more of a couples activity rather than a chore to make yourselves find more happiness in it.
Another example, imagine setting the goal of getting a summer "beach bod" by June. Instead of loving the days in the gym and looking forward to going so that you can get one step closer to your goals, you dread every second you have to be there.
What are the odds you actually follow through on your goal at that point? Slim to none probably.
You are likely just going to get sick of going as you don't like the day to day of achieving your goal, rather you just like the idea of getting in better shape.
How Loving the Process Will Change Your Results
It will put the odds of achieving those results in your favor.
Okay so loving the process is not going to just put the odds in your favor of achieving the goal you have set, because you actually want too show ups and do the work. When you love the day to day of achieving your goals you are actually more likely to way surpass your goals and set new ones after you reach the first one rather than "taking it easy."
Just think about it for a second fam, if you love what you are doing every day, not just the ideas of your goals, you are going to go that extra mile to learn more, take more action and think of different ways to solve problems that arise.
All of these things lead to new opportunities in your life which lead to better and better results for yourself.
When you solely are looking forward to the end result, you are not going to put in that extra effort to learn and do more, you are just out here trying to "pass."
(Much like on a test for a class you hate, you won't care and will just try to pass the test with as little effort as possible, causing you to learn nothing.)
Does This Principle Work in Other Areas of Life?
I'm pretty sure you can apply this principle to any area of your life successfully.
From setting goals based around your finances, relation ships, school, work, fitness etc.
You are bound to help out any goal you have by learning to love the process of going after the goal, rather than just achieving the goal itself.
You will seek out more knowledge, learn more, take more action and just get better results.
How exactly do you learn to love the process though?
I'll try and explain...
How to Start Loving the Process
I can't force you to love something, but I can help show you what works for me.
Here are going to be just a few ways that I have found work for myself to learn to love the process a little more in areas where I seem to struggle to do so. Take it and try a few out to see what works for you as some strategies might and some might not, everyone is different!
The first strategy here is more about mindset based around setting and then looking at your goals.
You NEED to understand WHY you are trying to reach a certain goal and how you are getting closer to that WHY each day. When you show up to work on your goals with that WHY in mind, your whole mindset is going to shift from having to do something to getting to do something and this can bring your happiness to another level.
Living in the moment while you work on your goal is also essential if you want to find happiness in the process. You have to fully immerse yourself into this process and get rid of the distractions like TV playing int he background while you work.
Immersing myself has been the best way to start loving the process because it allows your mind to become curious and really dive into and out some emotion behind the problems that arise when you are going after those goals.
Do everything from work without music in the background or even just immersing yourself by learning more about whatever you are working on, even while you aren't working on it (such as at home every night).
Whn you are distracted and not immersed in the task at hand, you are just not going to care that much about the task and that is not the attitude to have for big goals in life.
Start caring a little more about the task at hand, it really is a game changer.
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