Self confidence is an "unfair advantage" in your life, here's how to increase your confidence...
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I have struggled with confidence for literally as long as I could remember.
School presentations might have been the death of me.
Forget trying to date anyone as I just never had the self-confidence that I was good enough, there was always someone better.
Especially in business or just hobbies in general, I could never find that confidence to step outside of my comfort zone and my results suffered drastically.
I always just thought that I was playing a losing game, that is until I started to read more about my mind. I'm not sure what book flipped the switch, maybe it was the Third Circle Theory, maybe it was How to Win Friends and Influence People or maybe it was listening to podcasts such as Impact Theory, Short Story Long and The MFCEO Project...
Whatever it was that flipped the switch into realizing that I really could change my confidence and mindset, I am forever grateful.
I have realized all of the powerful things that confidence can do in my life and figured out how to actually start bringing in new opportunities in life thanks to my confidence.
Plus, I have made stepping out of my comfort zone a huge part of my life as I am constantly visiting new countries to see how I can grow and develop in a culture that is so much different than my own.
Hopefully I can help you flip that switch as well and get started changing your outcomes in terms of relationships, business and just life in general.
Confidence is the key and this is a great way to build it, in one simple "hack."
I almost forgot! If you are new to the blog, thanks for stopping by! With MMNTM (mo-men-tum) my goal is to help you level up your mind and mindset with effective "workouts." Much like you would train your body, this is the gym for your mindset, everything from your happiness and mental clarity to mental discipline and productivity. These are the things that have helped me the most and I love sharing them with you daily on yourmmntm.com/blog so be sure to stop out daily!
Now let's get back to what you started reading for
A Quick Overview
The Misconception With Confidence
People get confidence confused with ego...
Right off the bat here, a lot of us have negative perceptions of what we believe confidence to be.
We see those guys that think they are all that, walking around our college campuses or at work you see the cocky motherf**ker that thinks he knows everything.
What do you think then?
"I'm glad I'm not that guy" and if you are seeing those acts as acts of confidence rather than acts based around their EGO, then you start to harness a negative perception on what it means to be confident.
Confidence is being comfortable in your skin and knowing what you know based on previous situations, while always being ready to learn.
It is being able to carry yourself in situations where you aren't as comfortable but you have faith in yourself that you can endure.
Wanna know what confidence is not?
It is not that cocky, ego filled person that thinks the world revolves around them. Sure, they might have confidence, but that is not the sole definition of confidence.
Why You Might Be Reading This Article
We all struggle with this at some point or another, confidence needs to constantly be worked on.
Maybe you stumbled upon this article on Medium or Reddit, but most likely you have been searching for a while now on how to build that confidence but just haven't found the right solution yet.
Even if you did happen to find this on Medium or Reddit, something compelled you to click on this article.
Something compelled us all to click on this article, me as well back in the days of high school when my confidence was less than ideal. And something compelled me again to work on it recently and write this article. It is a constant process.
Maybe you just can't find the confidence to talk to that girl you have been wanting to ask out.
Or maybe you just can't find the confidence to step outside of your comnfort zone.
Or to work on something you are passionate about.
Good thing you found this article, this is going to be ONE GREAT PIECE OF ADVICE that can help you change your mindset and increase that confidence.
Don't worry, you won't get bogged down with a million options on how to increase confidence like some articles do, I am giving you ONE actionable choice, take advantage of it!
What Confidence Can Add to Your Life
A hell of a lot more than you think.
Confidence is more than just a one time thing that a lot of us think it is. It is more than just that one moment we need it to ask that person on a date or the one time we need it for a presentation.
Confidence is a way that you carry yourself and a mindset that can bring you to levels that you never though possible.
You can start be to more comfortable in your own skin, being who you are. Confidence doesn't mean having to act like someone you aren't, it can help you amplify who you actually are.
It helps you carry yourself into conversations and uncomfortable situations that you might not be used to and helps you learn or even meet new people.
It helps you take actions that you previously weren't taking.
When you start to take these actions, you start attracting opportunities that you never would have previously, such as business opportunities or just opportunities to meet people.
You never know when the person you are meeting could end up being your significant other, your best friend, or someone that changes you life!
The most important thing: Increasing your confidence will help you realize that you ARE ENOUGH.
No longer is success or good relationships "for other people." You will start to realize you can have all these things as well, there is nothing special about these other people.
Realizing I was enough was huge for me because I was subconsciously holding myself back. Even though I was doing the work, I was always doing not enough work or just slacking because deep down I always though these things were for other people only, that is NOT THE CASE AT ALL.
Your Mindset With/ Without Self Confidence
A world of difference once you start working on it.
Imagine instead of hiding in the corner or avoiding walking by that person you are attracted to, you can walk by them, make eye contact and make a conversation.
Imagine instead of going straight to your desk at work, you can start to interact with more people. Maybe that leads to you getting new projects to work on or others starting to see your strengths and asking for your help with problems, showing you are valuable to the company.
Imagine taking that first step in starting your business because you realize that you are enough and that you actually can reach those goals. Instead of just reading and learning, avoiding taking those first steps because you don't want to fail.
Imagine being able to clearly articulate your thoughts and goals, without getting nervous about what others are thinking or stumbling through your sentences.
Confidence plays a part in almost every area of your life, you owe it to yourself to work on it for once.
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