You can start to improve your habits all you want but if you don't craft the right mindset to go along with those habits you either are going to lack the results you are looking for or you are going to not see many results at all.
Your mindset is probably the most important thing you can work on because if you are depressed and have negative thoughts throughout the day, but have great habits, you are still going to struggle to see results in any area of life.
Almost every one has heard of the law of attraction: what you think about most will come into your life. This is true whether it is good or bad, because as we are constantly thinking these things, we are seeking out the same information to confirm what we are thinking is true. Say you are depressed, instead of seeking out and acting on information about how to fix your depression, you start to listen to sad music and watch videos that confirm what you are thinking and keep you in depression for much longer.
How about we craft a mindset that allows us to constantly over come obstacles in our life and embrace the hard things rather than run away from them.
When we struggle and suck at something, that is when we grow. Yet everyone seems to be running away from the things they are horrible at because that is what is easy to do, no wonder so many people aren't happy with their lives, they just stay comfortable and never grow and learn new things.
Time to get you the results you want, starting in your brain.
What Most People Do Wrong in Life
When are you going to stop going through the motions?
They simply accept the path that they are on and do nothing to change it, even if they realize they could. For example, they graduate college and instead of traveling like they know they could figure out how to, they just settle into a job for the next forty years.
This leads them to a life of regret because it builds into their mind that doing the easy thing is always the best thing, even though it is not. It is easier to get a job and people won't judge as much so that is the route you take.
You want to know what this means though? It means you are training your brain to live life in fear and constantly doing what is easiest and what will make you go unnoticed by others so that you can just live your life.
What fun is that? We are all here to become interesting in our own respective ways and to live a great life story that you are proud to share at the end of your life.
Stop always doing what is easy, it will turn into an instinct and you really will get trapped where you are in life. This blog is going to help you do just that, train your brain to do what is really hard and embrace the suck.
Why Pushing Yourself Mentally Will Help You in All Areas of Life
Challenge yourself, see yourself grow, stay curious and interesting.
When you start to develop a growth mindset and realize that the things that are hard have the best stories and the best rewards, you will start seeking out these harder things in life to do and start to develop better skills and better experiences.
Start Taking Cold Showers
It will be the hardest thing you do mentally each and every day.
My all time favorite and one of the hardest things you will do, but it can also save you money from not using the hot water so it might be a win-win.
Everyone gets used to sitting in a warm shower, it is comfortable and relaxing and you really can't beat that on a cold day. But, this isn't teaching you anything or helping you become stronger, it might even be contributing to your weakness as you train your body to embrace the easy thing and you won't even get in the shower until it warms up.
There are countless mental and health benefits to taking a cold shower, but most importantly it is going to build a resilient mindset.
The cold shower is going to be one of the hardest things you do each day because you are so used to being comfortable in the shower that when it is ice cold, it is almost impossible for your brain to let you get in. This means though that you get one of the hardest things done right away in the morning and most problems you encounter won't be as mentally hard as this is for you.
To get started:
Push Yourself in The Gym
Not just your basic workout.
Sure, you may go to the gym but are you actually pushing yourself?
Pushing yourself may be going to the gym for some people, but for some people it takes a lot more. The thing is that after a few years of consistently going to the gym, it really becomes comfortable to you as you are doing the same exercises and it just becomes second nature.
When it becomes comfortable is when you stop seeing results. No longer is just showing up going to push yourself anymore, now you have to earn it. A lot of people try to just walk on the treadmill at like 1 mph and that is not a workout just because you showed up to the gym, start pushing your limits and start sweating like a mad man.
In your strength workouts start switching it up with some HIIT routines and really push your comfort zone as you are going to be on the edge of failure for the whole time at the gym, not just calling it a day after you do 12 easy reps.
If you really want to build your mental strength, start taking walks in the morning. Sure, this sounds easy and some days when it is warm and sunny really are enjoyable, but wait until its winter in your area or it is raining like crazy. You don't take these days off from the walks, you get outside and start walking in the brutal weather.
This teaches your brain that the rewards don't come easy and that you have to put in the work even when the situations are trash.
Do Something You Suck At Every Day
Start seeing how you really can do whatever you set your mind to, see yourself grow as a person and gain a new skill or skills!
This pretty much comes down to having a growth mindset. Too many people think they have the skills that they have and can't create new ones, or they are less likely to try and create new skills even if they know it is possible.
Because they have a fixed mindset, they think they are on their path and they can't really do anything to change it, or are not wiling to do anything to change it. Some people just like people feeling bad for them, they get energy from it and that makes them feel better about where they are, don't be that person.
People rarely do the things they suck at because they are scared about what people might think or say about them when in reality nobody will care as much as you think that you suck at something.
Everyone sucks when they first start doing something, you have to realize that and learn that in order to be good you have to suck first.
When you do something that you suck at everyday, you are going to first off build a resilient mindset that isn't afraid to fail at anything in life anymore because you know greatness comes out of the other side of failure.
You are also naturally going to get better at whatever it is you may be doing and this is going to add a new skill into your life. You don't have to start with huge things either, you can start with small skills that you might not be great at but the mindset you craft from these skills will translate into larger problems you are faced with at work.
Here are a few ideas of things to try today that you might suck at, pick one or a few that might interest you and start crafting a resilient mindset:
Time to Live A Great Story
This isn't just traveling all over, it is loving yourself mentally and constantly pushing your limits to see all that you are capable of.
Why would you want to go through the motions in life and live just so you can pay your bills and buy a new Gucci belt? Sounds pretty boring to me because really you are just buying all that stuff to impress other people, and honestly they don't really care as much as you think they do.
When the end of your life comes, you are not going to care about the stuff you bought, rather the people you met and the stories you have. Yet so many people live life for things rather than experiences and they end up living boring lives no matter how much money they have.
Start focusing on experiences, relationships with others and living a great story. Do you really want to waste your whole life trying to impress other people and never really be happy or fulfilled?
Thanks for reading, I hope you try these things out and not just read about them to make you feel good because the results don't come until you actually start acting, knowing you need to or that it will help just isn't enough.
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