We all have those weeks, months or even sometimes years where we just feel like nothing is going our way and have literally no idea what to do about it.
Looking back at my life, this was exactly me each time I would leave a relationship, I would dive into a deep sadness for months and really didn't know how to pull myself out. My most recent relationship was different though, I took it upon myself to figure out why this was and how I can gain some momentum back into my life, faster than before.
Have you ever noticed that things come when you are least expecting them to or are not even looking for them? They usually come when we are focused on ourselves and our growth, not really worrying about what others are doing. When you are focused on this, it seems that opportunities just start coming out of what feels like nowhere. The best example of this is in dating, the person you seem to be wanting comes around when you are least expecting it or you randomly meet them one day when you were not even looking.
A few factors play into this, the most important one though is your confidence that stems from the responsibility you have in life at that point in time. Right when you get out of a relationship, you lose a big part of your responsibility as you are no longer concerned or responsible for being with or providing for that other person.
When you don't have that responsibility driving you everyday, you really start losing reasons to get out of bed and this spirals down to losing confidence and momentum. How are you going to gain momentum or even be confident if you are not doing anything productive to prove to yourself that you are great?
Responsibility plays a huge part in our lives, so if you are stuck or feel kind of lost, give this a read and start increasing your responsibility, even if it is just being responsible for sticking to your habits everyday. This will slowly grow your confidence and give you momentum in life that will lead to new opportunities.
The Power of Responsibility
I touched on this above, but adding responsibility can do some amazing things in your life from increasing your confidence to bringing about more opportunities, we were not hardwired to just sit around and do nothing. In the early years of time, we were out hunting for food and building shelter and protecting families or children, we were not sitting in front of a TV all day with no responsibilities and having everyone do stuff for us.
Responsibility is built into us as people, just think about it even when you are on a week long vacation to a beach, the first few days are great but once you start nearing the end of the vacation, you start to feel ready to go home. Why? Because you are craving the responsibilities that await you when you get back home.
These responsibilities bring meaning to your life and you feel pretty meaningless when you are just sitting on a beach getting drunk all day, so you start to crave some real responsibility.
By increasing your responsibilities, you start to add structure to your life and this helps gives you reasons (and makes it a hell of a lot easier) to get out of bed in the morning. You have something to wake up for and something that is relying on you to get done.
You start to show yourself that you are capable of things you didn't think you were and you slowly start building confidence, earning your confidence through trial.
Jordan Peterson on Responsibility
My obsession with responsibility is really due to listening to Jordan Peterson, world renowned psychologist, on the Joe Rogan podcast as this was one of the main points he brought up during the show. For whatever reason, listening to that during that specific point in my life made something click and helped me climb out of my sadness.
Since then, I have read Peterson's book: 12 Rules of Life, listen to his podcast almost daily and always get excited when I see that he is a guest on other shows I listen to.
I am going to include some links to videos and podcasts for you, some of my favorites, so you can get an idea about who Jordan Peterson is and start to take in all of the knowledge that he has around life as it is much more than just responsibility. He has opened my eyes to so many topics around why I am thinking the way I am and hope Peterson can do the same for you.
Jordan Peterson on the Joe Rogan Podcast >>
Jordan Peterson on the Meaning of Life >>
Jordan Peterson's 12 Rules for Life in 20 Minutes >>
Side Hustles Add Responsibility
If you are looking to add responsibility into your life, I will give you one of my favorite ways as it has always helped me keep at least a base level of responsibility in my life and kept me active and thinking (as well as making some more travel money).
That is to pick up a side hustle, not just a particular one but it could be anything that excites you or interests you enough to put a handful of hours in on it everyday!
Heck start a blog, vlog, start creating content for social media based around what you enjoy, even start a business. Find something that gets you out of bed in the morning because that level of responsibility starts creating skills and those skills help you earn confidence. Yes, confidence is earned and you don't just "not have it" if you aren't as confident as others. When you focus on your craft and know your skills, that is where confidence comes from, a lot of people fake their confidence and really aren't that confident in themselves as they have nothing to back them up and no skills.
If you are interested in one of my favorite side hustles, I'll link a downloadable guide for you to start below as this side hustle will start to build skills like sales, negotiation and marketing in your life. Plus it is easy to get started as I have been doing it on the side in high school and college now for years!
Download that guide here >>
How You Can Start
Other than through a side hustle, there are many other ways you can start to add responsibility to your life, my favorite being through taking control of your habits.
This is something that I have been super focused on the past few months as well and it adds a ton of responsibility throughout the day as you are responsible for sticking to them and making sure they get done each and every day, without an excuse. This is one of the more powerful ways you can start adding responsibilities in your life as it teaches you to rely on yourself and shows you the power that you really have.
If you are not sure where to start, try looking at your current habits in areas such as learning, meditation, exercise, cognitive function, sleep and health and see where you need to get rid of bad habits and try out some new ones!
Thanks for popping over to the blog to check out this quick one as the topic is near and dear to me. Responsibility and structure in my life pulled me out of a deep sadness earlier this year and that is where I really first started to see the power of it.
I would love to help you some more and help you start experiencing some of the world. I made a free guide for you if you are interested in getting that side hustle started and then how to use that money to travel for CHEAP! Click this link if you are interested in that >>
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