Sometimes the answer isn't always external...
Maybe you have a solid group of friends, maybe you are looking for a new group of friends or maybe you are just trying to find those people to connect with.
Whatever the case may be, this is going to help you.
A high percentage of us in America struggle with loneliness, just given the simple fact of what we do on a day to day basis. We sit on our phones, choose to work alone, eat alone and go to the gym alone.
While alone time is essential in your day to day life, you do need those strong relationships that you can always count on as well.
Some may even say that 3 out of 4 Americans struggle with loneliness in the United States, that is a wild fact considering how connected we seem.
But being connected online and in real life are two VERY different things. It is time to learn how to actually build meaningful relationships and while there are a million blogs out there talking about this topic, they are missing one thing: you have to start with yourself.
If you are new to the blog, thanks for stopping by! With MMNTM (mo-men-tum) my goal is to help you level up your mind and mindset with effective "workouts." Much like you would train your body, this is the gym for your mindset, everything from your happiness and mental clarity to mental discipline and productivity. These are the things that have helped me the most and I love sharing them with you daily on yourmmntm.com/blog so be sure to stop out daily!
Now let's get back to what you started reading for.
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Why You Are Struggling To Build Solid Relationships
Maybe it's your relationship with yourself you have to work on...
Everyone has their reasons, some of us are socially awkward, some of us like our alone time, some of us don't even know where to start, the list could go on forever.
It really isn't anything you are doing wrong when it comes to relationships, it really is just a mindset things that we can work on. Easy enough, right?
Oh, and before we get too deep into this posts here I should probably say that when I refer to "relationships" it can apply to either friends or romantic relationships, these mindset hacks will help you excel in both.
It's a win-win.
What if I told you all of these reasons you have for not making solid relationships can boil down to a couple things, your confidence and how you market yourself to yourself.
And actually how you are marketing yourself to yourself, or talking about yourself to yourself in your head, actually leads to confidence.
So, I guess you could say that your relationships boil down to one core thing, your relationship with yourself.
How Your Mindset Plays Into Relationship Building
You know by now, mindset is everything.
If you have been around the blog for a while, you already know this but if you are new here, welcome and here is the core principle for MMNTM:
Your mindset is at the foundation of everything, once you start changing the way you think, you start changing your life.
And what do ya know, it is no different in the area of your relationships. Crazy, right?
When you have a solid mindset, you are going to reflect that into the world and start attracting the people you want into your life.
Instead of just going through the motions and not talking to anyone, just kind of getting through the day, you can start to find more confidence and purpose in your day to day. This will attract many others into your life because that energy is contagious.
What exactly is a "solid mindset" though?
I like to think of a solid mindset as one that eliminates negative thoughts so that you aren't speaking negativity into the world, one full of confidence and one full of passion.
All of these will help you not be a "vanilla" (plain and boring) person and actually have things to talk about, attracting people into your life. Plus, when you eliminate negativity in your life, you are not going to be complaining as much.
Nobody likes being around someone that constantly complains.
Why Your Relationship With Yourself is Everything
It's all about how you market yourself to yourself.
You need to have a solid relationship with yourself if you want to add any of these traits into your life and start attracting the right people.
If you have a poor relationship with yourself and are constantly talking about negative things in your head about yourself and your goals, your re never going to get anything done and more importantly this is going to translate into how you talk with others and make them not want to be around you.
Instead, develop that relationship with yourself and start to change that voice inside your head.
If you really want to change you have to do this.
If you don't you are going to constantly be struggling to see results even though you are putting in the work. That voice in your head will subconsciously hold you back from creating these relationships.
Want to learn more about crafting this relationship with yourself? Check out this post I wrote as few weeks ago: Click here to read about your relationship with yourself >>
How to Actually Develop a Mindset That Helps Build Relationships
Almost every day I will bring you these "workouts" at the end of the articles to actually help you take action and change your mindset.
Because that is one of the major things I see missing in personal development, the actionable advice. Everyone has ideas and theories that are "up in the clouds," yet they never come down to Earth and give us some real ways to change.
And that is what MMNTM is for, to help you actually change in a unique and fun way, it's like taking your mind to the gym every day at yourmmntm.com/blog
Exercise #1: Take Away Negative Influences
Notes: The best way to change the negative self talk in your head is going to be to take away the content and music that you are consuming, especially the news, and switch it out with some more positive content.
Exercise #2: Cold Shower
Reps: 1x per day
Duration: 3-5 Minutes
Notes: What better confidence boost than taking an uncomfortably cold shower each and every day, as it is almost for sure the hardest thing you will do that day.
Exercise #3: Strike Up A Random Conversation
Reps: 1-2x per day
Notes: What better way to build some more confidence than to actually do what you aren't already doing.
Exercise #4: Do Something New
Reps: 1x per day
Duration: 30 min- 1 hour a day
Notes: Get out of your comfort zone and start doing or learning something that you would not have taken on in the past. It gives you something to talk about and gets you out of your routine.
Just like that another day on the blog is in the books! Thanks for all the support and if you enjoyed this or learned anything I just ask one thing: bring a friend back tomorrow! Time to make personal development more "normal" because it is at the foundation of every area of our lives. Stop back with a friend tomorrow-- yourmmntm.com/blog
Now be sure to actually put what you learned to use, don't just read about it and make yourself feel like you are taking action, actually take action!
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